"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have stumbled upon a somewhat-disturbing trend that has been going on: I have become a topic of conversation with people. Not just a brief reference...an actual conversation. These examples are from the past couple of months:

1.) This week, one of my good friends was on a first date with a girl I have met twice. Apparently, I was a topic of discussion during this date. I know this because the girl brought up what they talked about (nothing much, just that I'm single and have standards with dating). My friend then confirmed this discussion taking place.

2.) Two people I barely know on Facebook but am "friends" with (we shared a class together a couple years ago) are discussing my job prospects via wall posts. One of my friends had mentioned to one of them that I may be landing a job at a major company, but why are the two people I don't know well talking about me?

3.) A guy I get along with met a girl who lived in my apartment building at college. At the time, I didn't know the guy all that much - hung out with him once - and I hadn't run into the girl in awhile. Somehow, I came up in the conversation. The guy tells me they had "a whole discussion" about me.

4.) A friend of mine who I haven't seen in a few months but keep in touch with online tells me a girl randomly IM'ed him asking about me. The troubling part: This guy and I don't hang out a lot (at least not recently), and I have never seen or met the girl before in my life. Basically, there is no way she'd know that I know the guy.

Any thoughts? I realize this doesn't exactly deal with trying to get girls, but maybe it has something to do with my personality or how I present myself. I'm not wild by any means and I'm not a goof. However, I am confused. :crazy:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mr. Goods said:
I have stumbled upon a somewhat-disturbing trend that has been going on: I have become a topic of conversation with people.
I'm not wild by any means and I'm not a goof. However, I am confused. :crazy:
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Why do you believe your gossipworthyness is "disturbing" . I would have been thrilled in your position. Folks do not talk about boring chumps, they talk about fascinating people. That means YOU apparently.
And know this - women do NOT discuss unattractive, dull men for more than one dismissive sentence.

Someone said long ago," I don't care what they say about me as long as they get my name right ."

It seems that you really are "The Goods".
 
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For the life of me I can't understand the point of OP's post. Do you need validation OP? You're on everyone's mind. I discussed you with my mom the other day.
 
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For the life of me I can't understand the point of OP's post. Do you need validation OP? You're on everyone's mind. I discussed you with my mom the other day.
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Haha, yeah that Mr Goods guy?....me and mates were discussing him today for a good hour.

Seriously, man, losers are not worth talking about. If people are talking about you like that, it's all good and you must be doing something right.

If any of its negative, then f*ck em!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Captain said:
Would you rather people not talk about you?

Not all publicity if good publicity, but any publicity is better than none.
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That's true. I guess my wording was off in the OP. I just found the whole thing interesting and had no idea what it meant. The reason I posted it was because maybe I was unintentionally goofy and women would find that laughable, and not in a good way. This will sound weird, but I do not know how people - especially girls - view the way I present myself. I am always looking to improve and would have no idea if I was doing something fundamentally wrong.

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It seems that you really are "The Goods".
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Haha, that would be nice. All I need is for my recent luck with the ladies to improve a bit. :rolleyes:

Thanks for the responses. Most likely a knee-jerk reaction on my part. I'm not used to having people come up to me and outright saying, "We had an entire chat about you yesterday." Just something unusual, that's all.
 
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Me and my two German Shepherds talked about you over beers n Milkbones the other night. It was all good.
 
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Apparently you want to be a topic of conversation on this forum too.
 
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I went to my Parish and talked with my Reverend about Mr. Goods for a solid half hour.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Read the Book of Pook. You're value has skyrocketed so much that it is being broadcasted around the women's network. All the women in your general extended social circle now know you're a catch. They're trying to find out just how big of a catch you are and how available you are and if it's all true.

Don't **** this up by displaying low value to anyone, including dudes. Constant improvement, my friend!
 
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