Why am I attracted to B!tches

[HeyPachuco!]

I don't get it,

There difficulties, selfishness, the drama they consult in, beauty, unpleasantries the LOT!

Is it the road to things WE CANNOT HAVE, that make us desire and be determined to gain it.

Leave it up to the So Suave veterans to tell me whats occuring here? :wave:

 

[tinctrar]

Hey brother!

I will reply because I tend to follow the same path you do.

Question...is it negatively affecting your game? If so...then change paths.

My buddies always say I draw crazies in. While its not true...it has some truth in it.

But that is the case with hot chicks. Most of them have issues. But who cares?

Have fun and learn. I have been with so many crazy but hot girls that I know what not to look for in an LTR. It was my way of learning what I want in life.

Until then play the game and enjoy.

P.S. I talk to my mother almost daily - she lives on the other coast. Whats her diagnosis? She says im not readle to settle. Shes right. I wont settle for bullsh!t. But until then I play with fire and its fun for me. And, like a good mother should, she agrees with me.

 

[pipe007]

I am personally attracted to the drama, games, and mind playing stuff that women do at the early stages of dating.

its like you wanna get rid of all of that and conquer them... but once I attract them enough and I understand that they are in love with me... my attraction towards them starts going downhill fast... to the point where I wanna drop them.

weird stuff

 

[tinctrar]

Hey pipe...

I dont think it has to do with changing it. I never want to do that. Its just fun.

 

[DanelMadr]

The best possible explanation I've read is from some psychologist dude or lady and it seems to make some sense.

Basically, you go for these people or don't discard them early on, because you need to create a relationship problem. And then you hope to solve it. Because you wasn't able to solve the problems your mum and dad had. Or problems you had with your mum or dad. Or maybe with your ex.

Basically you can't live with a fact some people are b1tches or azzholes. You attract them to save/change them.

The same phenomena you can see with girls and jerks. Father was a jerk or didn't give her enough affection, hence low self esteem hence always punishing herself + trying to turn this type of situation + habit.

Solution:

Investigate what bothered you as a child. And forgive your parents and yourself - FAKK IT.

Build some healthy self esteem / confidence.

Change the paths you walk. Consciously remind yourself when approaching a type of woman you are familiar with - buy a set of red flags and use them.

Learn to say "FAKK IT". You will need that phrase in your life....or pain awaits you, my friend. Even Jesus H. Christ knew how to say that..."you don't like me or what I say, well, your bad you stupid mor0n". Or something like that - I wasn't there.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

I haven't posted here in quite a long time (just started reading again unfortunately), but I had to log-in for this one.

The reason you're attracted to *****es is the same reason that nice guys complain that girls are attracted to guys who are *******s/d-bags. You guys must remember that this "game" is very much a two-way street. You can be a victim to the same tactics that this board suggests you use on women.

As for the psychological background, the simple answer is that these types of people are more challenging, and so naturally you want to overcome that. Also, arrogance can easily be confused (and often overlaps with) confidence, and we all know that confidence is sexy, whether you're talking about a man or a woman.

 

[sodbuster]

IS one of your parents like them? Mom or dad,doesn't matter. IF so, you have childhood issues to examine. I married my dad with boobs. Controlling, low self esteem, the whole enchilada. It"felt normal,it felt right" I KNEW how to deal with her because I had for my whole life[with dad]. As I grew mentally and decided I was past needing that in my life,we divorced.

 

[L B]

Hopefully you learn how to effectively deal with drama and use that experience for future relationships. That's how I learned in the beginning.

Why don't you try gaming other types of women. In the end, they're all crazy, but to varying degrees. Learning how to deal effectively "b1tches" at all levels will make you successful at the dating game and the game of life. Good luck and have fun!