"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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why a girl felt she needed to say this to me?

tony-montana

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this girl and i been friends for a while. we have lied to alot of ppl saying we use to date just for the hell of it. just before she text me sayin;

her: I can't believe they believe we dated. you are soso not my type. we are totally different.

wtf? i just replied "no sh!t. we are good liars."

it is true though however.. we are not the same. she likes to drink and smoke alot. go out clubbing. i'm the complete opposite. yet we still get along.

is this just to see what i'd reply with or what, i just don't see the need for her to say that to me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SomethingClever

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Bingo! You saw it as a test, and you passed with flying colors. I predict that she will be liking you real soon.
 

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There are lots of friends (male and female) that I have who are pretty different from me.

Heck, in my main group of friends we have a lawyer, a graphic designer, a computer programmer, a chef, a professional landscaper, a sales rep, a teacher, and a marketing agent.

We all have some overlapping likes and dislikes, but we're all pretty different people.

It might be a 'test' from her to gauge where you see the friendship between the two of you -- but it might also be nothing. Are you two friends or do you want something more out of this?
 

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you guys make a cute couple. opposites attract.
 
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