"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ectomorph

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there is this girl im talking to on msn and at skool right? i like her but she consideres me her best friend so im like "NEXT" but she always want to talk to me at lunch and go with her evrywere and she always talks about my friend (they used to date) and she is like obssesed with him and wont admit it and thats all she ever talks about... him, he likes her too but he goes and games other girls, so if i like try to change the subject, she will ask me"so what do u think about what he did" and she'll change it back and like out of no where she will bring him up man its pissing me off man and i dont think i like her anymore lol she knew i liked her but shot me down and now im her bff imean im pretty nice but she considers me her bff so i dont wanna b mean, im clueless, help lol
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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battle_sheep

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Shes using you as the emotional tampon bro!

Leave her and hang out with the guys!
 

eaglez1177

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Wow you are the classic example of an emotional tampon.
 

Analyzeit

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To be honest don't take to much notice if a girl calling you her best friend and sh!t don't worry about it, you see most chicks aren't even good at there own game like most guys are AFC they will say this because like most AFC they think making friends is a way to a relationship which is a huge AFC mistake but works on both sides.
But the other stuff is pretty bad like how she keeps talking about that guy and has shot you done before may as well stay friends with her you got nothing to lose really but i'd say she needs a good nexting lol

your not an emotional tampon im sick of that phrase your a friend and she thinks you want to be friends with her aswell and thats what FRIENDS DO. but your screwed lol

EDIT: lol Mate just gave me a tip towards this if she starts talking about this guy and stuff start talking about "This Girl" lol make it up if you have too (make sure she doesn't find out though that would be very embrassing lol) and see if she gets jealous, hell anythings worth a shot
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Five To One

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It sucks but she likes you so much because your friends with this guy. She gets to talk about him all she wants and you sit there and listen. You probably even give her advice and your opinion on the whole matter.

First you need to reduce the amount of time you spend with her AND when you are around her, try to stop her from talking about him. Bluntly change the subject. If a girl starts talking about some guy to me I usually just blankly stare at her until she pauses and then I change the subject to something lame to show her how much I didnt care about what she said. "The weather looks nice outside, dont you think?"

Secondly you need to know that this girl does not like you. She likes your friend. She calls you her best friend because thats what you are, a friend.

The only way I see her ever liking you is if you stop focusing on her and get other girls. Its not stressed enough that girls want what other girls want. If she hears that ectomorph is talking to mary jane then suddenly she may find you attractive.

This girl goes on the back burner for now. She is what you should call long term game. You must be patient and never let her know you like her. When you make a girl long term game you need to wait until she comes to you. She needs to give you the green light, pretty big IOIs. Misjudging her and prematurly making you move will ruin your chances with her.

And long term game will take a long time(duh), she will need to see changes in your, small and slight but attractive changes. How you talk, how you hold yourself, your social life, how well you communicate, how mature you are, etc. No less than 2 months you can make this happen. It can take as long as a couple years.



Btw read up on body language and alpha male attitude.
 
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