I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
tryst type said:
i agree with this. thing is, this friend of mine always uses online to chat up girls and get them interested, he also copies my style of communication with girls. that added on to the fact that he blatantly said she was really attractive and thinks theyd make a perfect match makes them ever conversing on their own time an uncomfortable thought for me. not SO much an insecure issue, but rather a weird presence that could take place say we all happen to hang out together again. mostly in part from knowing he most likely would flirt even in the slightest way, even if she doesn't respond to it, which i wouldnt even know anyway.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So THAT'S the reason you're afraid. Makes some sense but if his motives were of another nature, don't you think him asking you would at least put him at a disadvantage, at least a little? Personally, I think it was a respectful gesture on his part.tryst type said:
that if something developed, it'd be kept from me and i'd be in a deceptional relationship, it'd anger me that a friend would stoop so low but i wouldn't think twice about walking away from him and her, the fear is if somethin behind my back occurs and im being constantly lied to.
Understand that if this were to happen, that your friend AND your girl both conspire a plot to betray you, you will not be in any place to curtail it; and that you trust your ability to survive if this were to happen.tryst type said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
thank you. any advice for when he calls me insecure, which he obviously does to more so prove my point.