Whooaa Girl Tells Me I'm Conceited!

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Her: "To be totally honest with you the thing keeping me from not communicating much with you... What's pushing me away is the fact that your conceited and i dont like that at all"

WTH? Someone tell me whats going on?

 

[perseverance]

She wants you to basically stop believing in your abilities and acknowledging how great you are and focus your attention onto how great she is. I'd just ignore it.

 

[Jariel]

It's interesting that being conceited or arrogant can be perceived in two ways. If it's a playful show of confidence, like ****y and funny, it's very endearing. But there's the kind that makes you appear stuck up and better than anyone else. Let's face it, we all know women who are like this and it's very offputting.

There's nothing wrong with having confidence in yourself. The girl I'm seeing keeps saying how ****y I am, but I've always been very confident around her. Before we got together I'd say things like "I know you want me" or "I can see you going weak at the knees when you see me" or when she'd playfully insult me I'd reply with "I'm still damn handsome though" or "you still would."

However, while acting like this I also make others feel good about themselves, show interest in them and encourage them to speak about themselves. If you position yourself as a great, confident guy, yet you give your time and attention to others, it makes them feel special and good about being in your company.

Same for girls...if a HB10 flirts with you, spends time listening to you and makes you feel appreciated...well it's a lot more effective than the HB10 who won't even give you a glance or walks past with her nose in the air.

 

[Falcon25]

Try being genuine and confident. Without sincerity, confidence means nothing. Be genuine, she can smell your arrogance. Be real, don't be fake. Be confident, not arrogant. Nothing turns a girl off faster than a conceited man.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

It's better to be conceited than a wimpering dog.

Though even conceit is not preferable to genuine confidence, held both in thyself and others.

Don't apologize for it, don't even acknowledge what she has said; diesel through it, while dialing back the egotism.

 

[vatoloco]

Dude. Context.

CONTEXT.

Under what circumstances did she tell you that? In person? Via phone? Chat/text? What was the mood? Etc.

This could mean several things depending on the circumstances...

 

[HolyG]

She wants you to basically stop believing in your abilities and acknowledging how great you are and focus your attention onto how great she is. I'd just ignore it.

* Opens mouth * .... *shuts mouth*

*looks for another thread*


Perseverance wins

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

She told me Via Texting.
What got me that response was this..

Me:"When ur free call me upp so we can hangout, getting that offer from me is extremely rare, you should take advantage"

She also said "Be yourself, be real and ill like being around you and talking to you. You dont have to try and impress me I promise that wont increase your chance"

Is it me or WTH? She's like trying to set the tone or something. Or am I being to arrogant? Every other girl I talk to likes this approach.

I do have to mention though that she seems to be traditional. She goes to church twice a week.

 

[perseverance]

She told me Via Texting.
What got me that response was this..

Me:"When ur free call me upp so we can hangout, getting that offer from me is extremely rare, you should take advantage"

She also said "Be yourself, be real and ill like being around you and talking to you. You dont have to try and impress me I promise that wont increase your chance"

Is it me or WTH? She's like trying to set the tone or something. Or am I being to arrogant? Every other girl I talk to likes this approach.

I do have to mention though that she seems to be traditional. She goes to church twice a week.

A) Why are you using text messaging to have a conversation?

B) She seems to be quite stuck up and seems to be quite assertive. You had better be careful, she could be a feminazi, if she is she's gonna tear you limb from limb.

C) Going to church doesn't make you a religious man. I go to Church twice a year. Ash Wednesday, Midnight Mass on Christmas Day. I am not religious by any means and I doubt many people who attend church follow the ten commandments. I bet even Nun's have a box of Durex featherlite Condoms in their bedside drawer.

If I was you, I'd just ignore her, she seems like a total **** in all honesty.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Yea well the texting contact was very minimal.

But I think your right this girl seems to be really trying to assert herself over me for some reason?

 

[perseverance]

Yea well the texting contact was very minimal.

But I think your right this girl seems to be really trying to assert herself over me for some reason?

All I will say to you is that if you are still interested in her, you'll need to put your foot down. None of this "call me up" business, you'll need to dominate her and dictate the ball game.

You'll need to find out why she is looking to assert herself over you. If she spoke to me like that, I'd pull her up on it. I won't have anyone talk to me like that, especially when you were simply flirting with her. It sounds like she has issues.

I reckon she is a feminazi and these women are women who demand equal rights, yet they try and become "boss", they go from being your girlfriend to being your boss, ordering you around. I could be wide of the mark, but certainly she lacks a sense of humour and the ability to flirt. If she is not a feminazi then she is socially lacklustre and that's enough in my book to be nexted.

If she communicates to you with such disrespect, pull her up on it. Put her in her place and go no contact. If she apologises, then she is game, if she isn't then that's her loss. Plenty more women in the ocean.

 

[Falcon25]

There is nothing wrong with this girl. She's actually a great girl for putting up with this pompous prick. You said "When ur free call me upp so we can hangout, getting that offer from me is extremely rare, you should take advantage"

WTF kinda message is that? Who are you kidding man? That offer is extrememly rare? Are you a girl? Are you a Saudi Prince or something? She knows you don't have anything going. You don't say things like that. You have make her feel like you want her, without saying it. Then you said, "let me know", WHAT? You never say those words. You sound arrogant, just your user name alone sounds arrogant. Why don't you try to attain some confidence before women??? You have a lot to learn.


She's not asserting anything, she's attracted to your looks, but cannot believe you are so fake. So, she is giving you another chance. She's a sweet girl. She puts up with your dumb ass texts.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

IMO, regardless of whether OP is being an ******* or not, what this situation boils down to is basic congruency. She isn't buying what you're selling.

So just quit trying so hard.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

BS Falcon25 I can see how my text may be arrogant but its true I got girls calling me upp telling me how I owe them a date. I rarely reach out like I have did with this one.

I dug up some info on this girl and she seems to be a good 'ol fashion "Attention *****" I def. Think she's worth banging though.

By the way everyone thanks for all the info and tips including you Falcon25 yall guys are great and keep boards like this going. It's much appreciated.