"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WHOA! I saw my EX and I felt a little f*cked up about it.

Rudy_TubeSteak

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I had a oneitis last year and we were also good friends but things didn't work out. It took me a while to get over it because I feel heartbroken and burnt.

I am in a great LTR and would never do anything to sabotage it. I am very happy with my current one.

With my ex-oneitis, we had so many fights, she treated me like crap and I treated her like crap in return. We both went our separate ways and moved on.

However everytime I see her, her pics, her workplace or a place we always hang out I always feel a little f*cked up over it. I feel really weird and seems like I am a little hung up or not completely over her. I do not wish to be with her again nor want to speak to her but I always get down about it.

I can't explain why I do this. Its been almost a year since we did anything together. I have been with a lot of other girls and now settling down since then. I dont express my emotions or let anyone see me get down about her I always put on a happy strong front and pretend like she doesn't exist.

Seems like old wounds have been re-opened. I want this non-sense out of my system and move on. Can anyone shed more light on this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJDamage

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Rudy_TubeSteak said:
However everytime I see her, her pics, her workplace or a place we always hang out I always feel a little f*cked up over it.
Then why do you keep seeing her, looking at her pictures, stoping by her workplace, or hanging out in the places you used to hang out?

Stop it.
 

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I don't put myself in a position she is more likely to be there. I dont go out of my way to see her and I actually avoid confrontation and go the other way. Tonight I was working security at a concert and I saw her in the corner of my eye while I was walking and I just pretend I didnt see her. If I did I wouldv'e just smiled, say hi and go about my business.

Her pic used to just come up by random, facebook/msn/myspace etc but I have gotten rid of her from all of them. They don't serve any purpose for my benefit so they are all gone.

Sometimes my friends mention her etc...

My good friend is also doing security and he happens to work at the bar she works at and I just catch up with him elsewhere.

Believe me I try to get away from anything that sucks me back into that frame.
 
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