"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Who the hell is this woman?

atki_1

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Hey fellas,

Just need your input on this,
I know for a fact that my relationship with this girl is a write off. But I just want to highlight a couple points to see what sort of disorder is this or if it has or if I was wrong which i might be but I don't think so.
I was going on a pre planned vacation and she was going back home to visit her family. We spoke about it that it's gonna be hard being distance and whatnot and I told her given I'll be with my mate I want you to understand that it's my me time and since you're heading after that to your family I'll go ahead and give you your you time. So we're basically limiting our interactions for a bit because of timezone differences. 2 days passed by a charm, come 3rd day on my vacation I get a long ass text explaining how she's feeling anxious and getting dreams and **** about us breaking up. And she starting stating things I said before and how they affected her. I'm here reading the text mind blown to the core. Calmed her down and we moved passed this, only to arrive again with a different scenario when I posted a picture of me on ig.wont dwell into this but its major drama ****. Calmed again, a couple days passed details similar to what I wrote above.
I literally went from 10 to 1 on the love scale. I sent her a message telling her that the words she says of how she likes me are not mirrored in her actions and that it's best that we calm it down until we're both back and we can sort it out. She unfollowed me on Instagram, I didn't know until later and she spoke with me the next day as if nothing happened and that she wants to make it work. I found out later that she unfollowed me. When I asked her, she played the victim this is when I said its gonna work and I need to sort out my thoughts on where this relationship is going. Of course she didn't take it lightly.. but yea that's that.
Who the hell is this woman??!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Best way in your situation you mean, that depends firstly on you. Where your game is at. How attached is the woman to you. If she's the only one in your rotation. You have to realize this is a sh1t test, and you must pass it, otherwise you lower her interest level and your value, which will lead to losing her.
 
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Hey fellas,

Just need your input on this,
I know for a fact that my relationship with this girl is a write off. But I just want to highlight a couple points to see what sort of disorder is this or if it has or if I was wrong which i might be but I don't think so.
I was going on a pre planned vacation and she was going back home to visit her family. We spoke about it that it's gonna be hard being distance and whatnot and I told her given I'll be with my mate I want you to understand that it's my me time and since you're heading after that to your family I'll go ahead and give you your you time. So we're basically limiting our interactions for a bit because of timezone differences. 2 days passed by a charm, come 3rd day on my vacation I get a long ass text explaining how she's feeling anxious and getting dreams and **** about us breaking up. And she starting stating things I said before and how they affected her. I'm here reading the text mind blown to the core. Calmed her down and we moved passed this, only to arrive again with a different scenario when I posted a picture of me on ig.wont dwell into this but its major drama ****. Calmed again, a couple days passed details similar to what I wrote above.
I literally went from 10 to 1 on the love scale. I sent her a message telling her that the words she says of how she likes me are not mirrored in her actions and that it's best that we calm it down until we're both back and we can sort it out. She unfollowed me on Instagram, I didn't know until later and she spoke with me the next day as if nothing happened and that she wants to make it work. I found out later that she unfollowed me. When I asked her, she played the victim this is when I said its gonna work and I need to sort out my thoughts on where this relationship is going. Of course she didn't take it lightly.. but yea that's that.
Who the hell is this woman??!
Pretty normal in many ways. No disorder.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thanks bro, what's the best way for dealing with this type?
Are you asking how to mitigate/pacify her so that she will stop the nonsense?
 

sazc

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Best way in your situation you mean, that depends firstly on you. Where your game is at. How attached is the woman to you. If she's the only one in your rotation. You have to realize this is a sh1t test, and you must pass it, otherwise you lower her interest level and your value, which will lead to losing her.
Seems like she is a headache and it will be no real loss....
 

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Yea
Seems like she is a headache and it will be no real loss....
I dumped her, it's not worth the back and forth. I slashed off a lot of details. Like she gained more confidence when she got home where instead of acting needy, she started acting indifferent. A lot of inconsistencies in her behaviour. Whenever I call her out on her ish she doesn't take it lightly.
 

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Normal tactics from females to control men via manipulation.

Go out and fvck more women, then you'll arrive at the same conclusion too.
 
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