"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Warboss Alex said:
most guys on here are trying to apply a science to something that isn't at all scientific no matter how much you want it to be to justify spending your time reading the 'dj bible' when you could just be going out and finding your woman.
So by extension the whole of psychology is a waste of time?


Do we just ignore the guys' lives that by learning a little bit about women they are much happier? Why argue with results? Aren't you the one who in bodybuilding preaches "try it and see if you get results." The DJ stuff is the same thing. We give some examples of stuff that works for other guys and a particular guy tries a couple things that are him and work for him. I don't care how huge you get doing 30 reps i'm not going to do 30 rep sets when it doesn't work for me.

I assure you that being able to cry all the time in front of your woman and all the sappy stuff you say you do constantly is the very rare exception of the world and just may be skewing your view of how the rest of the world of dating is going. I'm sure we all would love if things really did work that way - so many guys would already be perfectly happy - but it almost never does.

You might say that we should just wait for the woman that lets us do exactly what we please and not change ourselves at all. But we'd like to have women and fvck women while we're waiting for 'the one' if it's in our personality to want a one to begin with.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Warboss Alex, I got a question for you:

What brought you to sosuave? you obviously dont agree with a lot of the "tricks" and "techniques" that many other DJs live by, and there are many other forums that are devoted solely to health and fitness, so what made you choose this one?
 

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THE_ADDMAN said:
Warboss Alex, I got a question for you:

What brought you to sosuave? you obviously dont agree with a lot of the "tricks" and "techniques" that many other DJs live by, and there are many other forums that are devoted solely to health and fitness, so what made you choose this one?
someone sent me the jelqing or whatever link, and I just browsed the rest of the site.. I saw that guys were struggling with the basics of getting in shape and I thought I'd help, since I more or less went through the exact same phases as you guys. Started out young, thought volume training was the thing to do, 30g protein per meal etc.. A lot of guys helped me out for nothing so if I can help other people out then I'm happy. I want to give something back, since I made tremendous gains on the advice of several patient, informative, supportive and enthusiastic individuals who took time out of THEIR day and THEIR workouts to put me on the right track..

True weightlifters should be a brotherhood - I've met the nicest people in the world through lifting even though if you saw them in a dark alley you'd pray for a quick death. In contrast the ****tiest people I've met in gyms have been the arrogant, well-dressed, prancing Brad Pitt wannabes..
 

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mrRuckus said:
You might say that we should just wait for the woman that lets us do exactly what we please and not change ourselves at all. But we'd like to have women and fvck women while we're waiting for 'the one' if it's in our personality to want a one to begin with.
Of course if you don't want to wait for a soulmate, or believe in them sure, go ahead and do what you want. :)

I have very traditional values and ethics, have never had a one night stand because I detest the very principle. This site seems to be devoted to the 'conquering' of women rather than getting any sort of emotional connection with them. That's fine, no complaints here, it's just I find it hypocritical.

Take a girl who sleeps with 2-3 different guys in a week. What do we say? "Slut, STDs, cheater, stay away." Yet if you find a guy who beds 2-3 different girls in a week (especially if they're attractive) he's a bloody hero. Personally I see something very wrong with that, but that's just my opinion.

What's more, I don't believe in giving away your body cheaply. A girl will play hard to get and tease even if she does want to sleep with you. But a guy practically falls into bed with a girl if she so much as winks at him in the right way. Why should we be cheap? Especially when we brand girls as 'easy' if they don't indulge in 'the thrill of the chase' (not that we'd ever refuse said girl of course).

I think sex is like lifting weights. It's not just there to pass the time, it's something which should be done properly, savoured and enjoyed. I don't consider screwing around enjoyment. Sleeping with random people is like lifting with bad form; you're cheating yourself of what you COULD be gaining (actual muscle growth/actual meaningful lovemaking which will be the ULTIMATE experience).

But hey, that's the way I've lived my life and I'm very happy for it.. not everyone will have the same experience nor is cut out for this I guess.

I think it makes you a man to have urges, but it makes you more of a man if you resist, control and focus them until they're ready to be unleashed.
 

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Warboss Alex said:
I think it makes you a man to have urges, but it makes you more of a man if you resist, control and focus them until they're ready to be unleashed.
Wow, I really like that quote...I'm posting it on my wall.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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