who initiates conversation?

[attugc]

over phone or aim...for casual talk, conversation.

I see myself doing it everytime, if she isnt initiating, does it mean there is not interest? Also, she doesnt ask questions to prolong the conversation, however when she does speak to me shes usually playful and hints at sexual stuff.

forget her or pursue?

 

[The Business Man]

First of all:
NO AIM. Period.

Second of all:
You should initiate conversations. Of course, there is a time to "do" or "not do" everything, but that's not important right now. I want to stress to you to initiate conversations just because if you don't, you will not make progress.

You say she gives playful hints, so I say go for it. When you said she doesn't help out much to prolong the conversation, she might just be shy, or worse, a cold fish. Those are no fun. Remember, if she is not fun she is not worth your time.


As a side note to anyone reading this, there seems to be this misconception that once her IL drops below 51%, she is lost forever. D'ammit, even though he is fictional, James Bond pulls girls who previously try to kill him! I think it is healthy for experienced DJs to challenge themselves, and try and get low IL girls on occasion. The reason you are told to NEXT them when IL is below 51% is so you don't develop one-itis. This is important, especially when you don't have much experience, but don't let it hold you back! After all, being a DJ is about being a man, and part of being a man is getting what you hunt for.

 

[attugc]

why no aim?

 

[The Business Man]

When you use AIM it's easy to get lazy, and even easier to get infatuated or FRUSTRATED.

See, it's bad for both parties. Communication is naturally not as clear, and ambiguous signals are never a good thing. Plus, as I've heard in other articles, if she is going to be thinking about you, let her be WITH you. She needs to associate you with FUN.

Phone calls are bad enough, and time on it should be limited mostly to setting up later dates; but instant messaging has no merit outside of business, or friendly chat.

Don't get me wrong, AIM is fun and convenient, but that's one reason why it is bad for DJing. Now that doesn't mean it can't be done... I macked a girl a couple years ago and IMed her more often than I called her, and her IL was through the roof! But now that I look back, it was only fun in the way that eating a twinkie is fun. Sure, it didn't kill me; but now that I eat healthier I just don't eat twinkies anymore. They are bad

 

[DuckMan]

AIM gives absolutley no chance for kino, eye contact, or gauging of interest level. Its really not as impacting to do c + F without any good contact (smiling , tone)