What do you do, as in what job do you have? How are you doing living alone, as in financially? Man I have a lot of questions but those are the basics for now. And oh yeah, how old were you when you moved out. I just turned 23. I don't know, I've been thinking about it. I'm trying to make the best decision I can so I'm asking those who had been there before..
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
who here lives on their own?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Forty0ztoFreedom
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I'm close to it. Have a cheap apartment (cheap money-wise I mean) lined up and ready, just not biting the bullet yet and taking action.
Its hard to break out of the living-at-home comfort zone.
Its hard to break out of the living-at-home comfort zone.
Darth_Qurashi
Don Juan
yea i'm really close too. i made the mistake of getting into debt, and so i have to pay that off first, but like this summer i plan to work full time and hopefully get out of here by the next year and start living my own life
I've lived on my own since I was 16. Back then I drove cabs on weekends and attended school during the week...sometimes. The cab company was Russian Jew and didn't give a sh!t about hiring a kid. I pulled in about 500 or so in cash a weekend minus gas. Enough to keep a small efficiency apartment in a ****ty section of Philly.
Obviously it was not ideal but my household wasn't either.
You can live on your own pretty easily as long as you live cheap. No eating out or going out. No new clothes. Cheap overprocessed food. Not hard at all.
Obviously it was not ideal but my household wasn't either.
You can live on your own pretty easily as long as you live cheap. No eating out or going out. No new clothes. Cheap overprocessed food. Not hard at all.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.