MMA Juan
Don Juan
Which of you guys do MMA, and if you do, what fighting combinations do u include?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
CoolBluEyes said:cool im on the gold coast... surfers p.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Wolf said:I PERSONALLY don't believe in Martial Arts, it looks cool and works well in the dojo, but if someone approaches you in the street, you will most likely:
A) Be too scared/shocked to put it to use
B) Not be good/quick enough to block all the punches
C) Be screwed because they have weapons...
I suggest:
www.streetfightsecrets.com
Bob Spour is one of the guys on there (Ex SAS soldier) and he can teach you some cool stuff.
Wolf said:I PERSONALLY don't believe in Martial Arts, it looks cool and works well in the dojo, but if someone approaches you in the street, you will most likely:
A) Be too scared/shocked to put it to use
B) Not be good/quick enough to block all the punches
C) Be screwed because they have weapons...
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Yea lol, if you've ever seen The Ultimate Fighter 5 where two guys went at it at the house, one guy goes for a flying armbar doesn't crank it fast enough and got his head smashed on concrete.Bible_Belt said:Regarding street fighting, pavement changes a lot as well. In MMA and UFC matches, the floor gives a little when they slam into it. This reduces the effectiveness of throws, slams, and takedowns as compared to on pavement. A simple takedown on a hard surface can cause broken ribs or a concussion.
The disadvantage to being on the ground in any street fight is that the other guy's friends can run up and kick you in the head.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I think the reason for this is because "martial arts" was invented by Asians, who tend to have a great reverance for tradition. So the same thing just kept (and keeps) getting taught in the same way generation after generation.I think JKD is very interesting because it is the first time "MMA" was invented, Bruce Lee had a vision of martial arts the rest of the world did not realize until later.
A Martial Art is training in any martial skill. This includes everything from firing a rifle to driving a tank, or Riding a horse. It is not restricted to any certain society or culture.danielzxc said:I think the reason for this is because "martial arts" was invented by Asians, who tend to have a great reverance for tradition. So the same thing just kept (and keeps) getting taught in the same way generation after generation.
If martial arts had been invented by Americans, we would have seen the kind of innovations foreseen by Bruce Lee made a long time ago.
For example, I used to do Kyokushin. Even though I was young, I used to wonder about the amount of time we'd waste on "the basics". And I'm not talking about basic punches and kicks, which truly are basics. I mean stuff like elaborate "blocks" that are just so obviously useless when it comes to actual fighting. (In sparring, nobody ever used anything remotely like those blocks.) The "reasoning" (ie excuse) was those moves teach you "develop power". Okay, but why didn't anyone ever ask if there might not be a better way to learn to "develop power"? Because long hours spent drilling with otherwise useless "techniques" might be better spent learning to "develop power" with more efficient and/or effective methods.
They still get away with this crap today because a lot of people join up "traditional schools" just because they like the idea of doing something traditional and "steeped in history". So in this sense, they are just filling a market need. But it's not the best way to train effective fighters.
I've been doing Krav for the last year and a half, and I would definitely bank on it.Antarctica said:As far the the rest of it goes, If I were to take any 'martial art' based on functionability, it would probably be Krav Maga. From a spiritual aspect I would do Tai Chi. But Krav Maga is just...f*ckin tight...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.