"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Who else experiences this constant anxiety

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Whenever I venture out of my house for anything at all there will always be a woman or two who will catch my eye on the street etc, and I will either have to force myself to approach or feel vexed with regret. This having to be in the game mindset at all times creates a constant anxiety.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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But it's natural, since you stopped jerking off a long time ago, and your sexual tension spills out of your balls every night while asleep. If you'd be approaching men it's be abnormal..
 

Gaucho

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What rubbish are you reading?

You shouldn't be approaching every single woman you see.

Approach them when you have time or dedicate a time to do so. I wouldn't be doing it every single place you go, you have other things in life to take care of.

Balance, life is all about finding balance.
 

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David DeAngelo's "Approaching Women" program talks about this: how many guys see themselves as having to be pickup "kung fu artists" and try to pick up EVERY girl they see (kind of like how everything in those kung fu movies turns into a fight; it's unrealistic). That's unhealthy.

How old are you? I just turned 21 and I used to have the same thing, but now that I can go into bars, that pressure is off me tremendously, and I only have to approach women that are compelling and naturally magnetic to me when they're outside of bars and clubs.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Warrior74

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I can tell by the way you write OP. You over think things alot don't you? You ponder. You analyze. You create secenarios in your head and solutions for them. Am I right? If so, stop doing that, if not, stop writing like you have a stick up your arse and a calculator in your head. Learn to let go, there is no pressure besides what you put on yourself.
 
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But that's the point of day game isn't it, to go about your life, and approach women you come across, instead of approaching only at specified time and venue such as night clubs.
 
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