"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Who else can relate?

ProDJ26

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Read Killapete's DJ Bible

It has what your looking for, matter a fact I'd advise you to search for it
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sherineo

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I'm 31. I'm a "loner".
I understand you mate...but you know what the problem is which most of the people miss ...that they don't appreciate their life and their circumstances...and most of the time these so called depressing circumstances become the life changing pivots.

The way you write "I'm a loner and I'm 31 years old..."...you somehow have started desrespecting your life...

No Advice from me ...watch FightClub and 40 Year Old Virgin...might give you some insight...

sherineo
 

steve12b

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For the majority of my life up to a few months ago I could relate. Let me tell you, antidepressants are magic, pure magic. Since I began taking an SSRI antidepressant parts of my life that I didnt even think had problems have imporoved. Imagine what it was like to feel genuinly good, perhaps when you last fekt truly understood by someone. When you were able to look at things with a positive outlook and putdowns rolled right off your back. You knew that you were perhaps a little bit different than a lot of people, but that there are tens of thousands like you (with an introverted personality or whatever it is that caused your depression).

That's how I feel most of the time now. I was on the verge of suicide myself. I would fantasize about shooting myself even as my girlfriend told me she loved me enough to marry me. In fact, the only other time prior to starting antidepressants where I was truly happy was for a few months after my girlfriend began pursuing me. I had a random streak of luck which was able to uplift me enough to get a girlfriend, and then having her kept me uplifted for a timebeing. Once the infatuation was over I became depressed again. She encouraged me to go on antidepressants and since then I have never looked back. I started without my insurance's knowledge at first, paying for everything out of pocket, but it has all been worth it and I plan on staying on these pills for awhile, at least until I finish resolving the underlying isssues.

IN SHORT, GO TO A PSYCIATRIST, TELL THEM YOU'VE BEEN DEPRESSED AND WANT TO TRY MEDICATION. It is worth going into extreme debt to get these pills, it's really that effective.
 

slitherjef

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Oh yeah?
Im 30. Live at home still (we got a house and I can't see moving out back into a friggin apartment again) but I also live at home for other reasons too, parents need my help to pay for the house... and the truck we just bought last week, thats out of my pocket. My dad is disabled, I help take care of him, get paid by the state to do so. I do have a decent disposable income, however

I don't have many friends. I can't drive, though I do plan on learning. I need to start reading the manual so I can get a permit. Im out of shape, over weight. I don't really get out, because, well taking the bus sucks. I think learning to drive will be a big help

Only went on 2 "real" dates a while back. Still got my v-card. Some days I wake up feeling like crap, and sometimes come to ss to b!tch and complain, don't feel like I have anything is going for me. Don't talk to many people, Im really shy

But right now, instead of feeling down in the dumps, I am actualy in a decent mood.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DarthAngel707

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EricInTheHouse said:
I'm a white dude, lol

5' 7"

broad shoulders...

brown hair..

Blue eyes

size 10 shoe

170 pounds

I kinda look like Doogie Houser M.D. LMAO...
All the girls love Neil Patrick Harris (even though he's gay) so your good on the looks department, and you seem to not have height issues like some other people on this board. Seems like you have a lot going for you but just don't know it yet...
 
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