Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Who are you?

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We all play a role.

Identity is one of the rocks of life. We find comfort in our personhood. Standing alone, we look at ourselves and marvel at our distinctness. We are an individual, I am a story, a living record of a life, with dreams and desires. When we feel let down, feel despair, we can look at ourselves and find strength in our persistance. We are still here. We are still us.

We all play a roll, and we find comfort in it. This is who we are, have been, and always will be.

Of course that is all a pile of ****. Your personhood is nothing but the tentative link between one moment and the next. Every second you become a different person. Every day you are a totally different individual to the one that woke the previous morning.

There is a battle in everyone between breaking new barriers and reclining into comfort. Just because you have the same name as the man who woke the previous morning doesn't make you him. You may admire him, or hate him, but you are not him.

We feel a fear of "acting out of character". We are bombarded with advice not to be fake, to be yourself. We are goaded into the comfortable monotony of trying to be the same as the man who woke the morning before.

We all play a role. I tend to play the joker. Spread a pack of cards, there are a lot of suits to try on, a lot of roles to play. Nature doesn't see you a baby and ordane you should stay that way forever. Go with it, try everything out. The joker doesn't get used in all the games. The joker doesn't fit me anymore. The joker doesn't get a suit, and I look good in a suit.

It's not being fake if your present role doesn't fit. You may be comfortable in it, but we're all here to break down boundaries. Don't want to give up the rock of timeless identity? Never said it would be easy.

Anyway, I'm going to try on the King. May mean less jokes, less comfort, some new chalenges and lessons, but that's where I want to be. We all play roles, but are you in the right one?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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it's good that you want to try on the King. you see that there is a need for change and you are taking the neccessary steps for the better. *thumbs up*
 

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good post

this explains whats been going through my own mind lately, and i think it is a phase that all young lads of about our age ponder. Up until now, you had a role that you didn't try to fit; you simply were. now, especially after visiting this site, you begin to question who you are or who you have become. This post also points out that you cloud_uk my friend are in the "inbetween" stage.

fvck this, I'm starting a new thread :rolleyes:
 
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im gonna be the ace , i am higher than the king, and unlike the joker i am not excluded, the 2 is above me, and the king is below me, i am THE ONE.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
actually did u watch that movie with jet li in it ?
haha ya now it all makes sense. lol

ps I think were the only ones online???
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
yeah so today i ate a cow and 2 pens of chickens for a snack, was still hungry after.
I recommend fair maidens, they always do the trick for me
 
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