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Who Are You, Self-Esteem versus Ego, Nature and Nurture, and the Strength of your Reality.
What the **** does it say on your ID?
Who you are is a combination of ‘what you are’ and ‘what you do’.
This entire blog is geared towards developing natural game and natural attraction. So, in order to find out who you are, it is important to find out who you naturally are; then, you can be naturally attractive.
Let’s think of how a woman naturally is, back in the caveman days: skinny and naked.
Men are instantly and naturally attracted to this woman, because it is her aesthetic, physical traits that inspires attraction within them. Whereas, on the other side of the coin, a man who is a natural, fully ‘manned up’ and not being a *****, will behave in masculine ways that will ultimate attract women. To behave 100% in congruence with the man you are is to be attractive, and, consequently, to behave incongruently with your natural masculinity is to be unattractive.
That’s life.
When you are in line with your natural masculine self, you will be attractive to women just because you are there, in much the same way that a woman will be naturally attractive just because she is there. (Remembering that you both need to be attractive and the facilitator of escalation in order to ultimately get the girl.)
Guys who are unnatural, and not behaving in congruence with who they are, do so because of social conditioning. To overcome this requires self-actualisation, and that is the purpose of this article.
But, firstly, you must know that to try and “learn” how to be a natural is to deny that you are already one in the first place.
Every guy has a natural man buried inside of him. To unearth this, though, is a deductive and simplification process, as opposed to a progression or an accumulation of skills. When you are thinking about coming into alignment with ‘who you are,’ naturally, remember that it is always a matter of stripping elements away from your personality, instead of looking for something new or looking for the “missing piece.”
To be un-naturally ‘who you are’ is not who you are at all, but rather some form of physically, surgically or psychologically altered version of yourself.
It is the false self.
When I refer to ‘who you are,’ I refer to the accumulation of ‘what you are,’ your personality, your identity, your character, your traits, your sense of self, your ego, your reality, your image and your persona. On closer inspection all these tags are different names of the same thing, though some are more accurate than others.
In short, who you are is comprised on two levels. One is the solid physical foundation of ‘what you are,’ and the other is merely an expression of that foundation, manifested by ‘what you do.’
This model accounts for who you are.
I have researched this model in field with hundreds of men; in myself, my students, in guys like Tim, Tyler, Jeffy, Papa, Derrick, Abercrombie, Pimpski, Nathan, Ozzie, Ryan and Saad, and in other natural guys I grew up with, who are also very good with women.
Why is it important to know who you are?
Because, if you don’t, you will never behave in the ways that are natural and congruent, and hence, you will not be naturally and truly attractive.
When I talk about behaviour, I mean the actions that you take; some are conscious, whilst others are not. A lot of the time when guys are learning how to pick up, there is incongruence with what they are thinking and what they are actually doing. For example, a lot of my students approach girls and get a conversation started because the girls instantly sense that he is cool at his core (his natural self), and because he took the action of approaching her. But, as the set goes on, sometimes the students regress into socially conditioned behaviours that are a force of habit, and are ultimately incongruent with their natural selves.
These bad habits come from social conditioning.
If you are unstifled, an alpha guy, a natural or have contextual confidence, your behaviours will be coming from the right place, and there would be no reason for you to compromise your natural intentions. But, if you are stifled and socially conditioned, like the vast majority of the world, your behaviours will come through a false-self filter, causing your behaviours to seem forced, defensive, or cautionary.
This is to behave unnaturally and is unattractive.
If your behaviours are unnatural, you will be incongruent with your desires as a man, and you will constantly question who you are. If a girl is more assured of who she is, than you are assured of who you are, you will react to her, be of lower value, and will not be inspirer of emotions.
You will not lead the girl; rather, she will lead you.
This is bad natural game.
However, if you do know who you are, inside and out, you will never flinch and react to the girl, you will never lose state and will always have core confidence. If you are a good source of state for the girl, you will have her seeking value, and reacting to you. You will be considered higher value than the girls, because you know who you are more than they know who they are, and will be naturally attractive to every girl that you meet. Often times, they will feel attraction for you before you even approach.
Like I said, and it’s important that I repeat this, most guys do give off an initally attractive vibe, because they are, in actuality, COOL GUYS! But, when they get into set they pretend to be something different that what they naturally are, causing them to **** things up for themselves. This occurs because they are under the misguided illusion that socially conditioned bad habits are what they are supposed to do.
But, first of all, how did I figure out, verify and find evidence to support your understanding of who you naturally are? Or, more accurately, WHAT you naturally are?
To read the rest of this article, check out my blog @ www.alexattitude.com
What the **** does it say on your ID?
Who you are is a combination of ‘what you are’ and ‘what you do’.
This entire blog is geared towards developing natural game and natural attraction. So, in order to find out who you are, it is important to find out who you naturally are; then, you can be naturally attractive.
Let’s think of how a woman naturally is, back in the caveman days: skinny and naked.
Men are instantly and naturally attracted to this woman, because it is her aesthetic, physical traits that inspires attraction within them. Whereas, on the other side of the coin, a man who is a natural, fully ‘manned up’ and not being a *****, will behave in masculine ways that will ultimate attract women. To behave 100% in congruence with the man you are is to be attractive, and, consequently, to behave incongruently with your natural masculinity is to be unattractive.
That’s life.
When you are in line with your natural masculine self, you will be attractive to women just because you are there, in much the same way that a woman will be naturally attractive just because she is there. (Remembering that you both need to be attractive and the facilitator of escalation in order to ultimately get the girl.)
Guys who are unnatural, and not behaving in congruence with who they are, do so because of social conditioning. To overcome this requires self-actualisation, and that is the purpose of this article.
But, firstly, you must know that to try and “learn” how to be a natural is to deny that you are already one in the first place.
Every guy has a natural man buried inside of him. To unearth this, though, is a deductive and simplification process, as opposed to a progression or an accumulation of skills. When you are thinking about coming into alignment with ‘who you are,’ naturally, remember that it is always a matter of stripping elements away from your personality, instead of looking for something new or looking for the “missing piece.”
To be un-naturally ‘who you are’ is not who you are at all, but rather some form of physically, surgically or psychologically altered version of yourself.
It is the false self.
When I refer to ‘who you are,’ I refer to the accumulation of ‘what you are,’ your personality, your identity, your character, your traits, your sense of self, your ego, your reality, your image and your persona. On closer inspection all these tags are different names of the same thing, though some are more accurate than others.
In short, who you are is comprised on two levels. One is the solid physical foundation of ‘what you are,’ and the other is merely an expression of that foundation, manifested by ‘what you do.’
This model accounts for who you are.
I have researched this model in field with hundreds of men; in myself, my students, in guys like Tim, Tyler, Jeffy, Papa, Derrick, Abercrombie, Pimpski, Nathan, Ozzie, Ryan and Saad, and in other natural guys I grew up with, who are also very good with women.
Why is it important to know who you are?
Because, if you don’t, you will never behave in the ways that are natural and congruent, and hence, you will not be naturally and truly attractive.
When I talk about behaviour, I mean the actions that you take; some are conscious, whilst others are not. A lot of the time when guys are learning how to pick up, there is incongruence with what they are thinking and what they are actually doing. For example, a lot of my students approach girls and get a conversation started because the girls instantly sense that he is cool at his core (his natural self), and because he took the action of approaching her. But, as the set goes on, sometimes the students regress into socially conditioned behaviours that are a force of habit, and are ultimately incongruent with their natural selves.
These bad habits come from social conditioning.
If you are unstifled, an alpha guy, a natural or have contextual confidence, your behaviours will be coming from the right place, and there would be no reason for you to compromise your natural intentions. But, if you are stifled and socially conditioned, like the vast majority of the world, your behaviours will come through a false-self filter, causing your behaviours to seem forced, defensive, or cautionary.
This is to behave unnaturally and is unattractive.
If your behaviours are unnatural, you will be incongruent with your desires as a man, and you will constantly question who you are. If a girl is more assured of who she is, than you are assured of who you are, you will react to her, be of lower value, and will not be inspirer of emotions.
You will not lead the girl; rather, she will lead you.
This is bad natural game.
However, if you do know who you are, inside and out, you will never flinch and react to the girl, you will never lose state and will always have core confidence. If you are a good source of state for the girl, you will have her seeking value, and reacting to you. You will be considered higher value than the girls, because you know who you are more than they know who they are, and will be naturally attractive to every girl that you meet. Often times, they will feel attraction for you before you even approach.
Like I said, and it’s important that I repeat this, most guys do give off an initally attractive vibe, because they are, in actuality, COOL GUYS! But, when they get into set they pretend to be something different that what they naturally are, causing them to **** things up for themselves. This occurs because they are under the misguided illusion that socially conditioned bad habits are what they are supposed to do.
But, first of all, how did I figure out, verify and find evidence to support your understanding of who you naturally are? Or, more accurately, WHAT you naturally are?
To read the rest of this article, check out my blog @ www.alexattitude.com