"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dave111

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Been dating a girl for a couple weeks now. The dates that we've been out on have been great, we got on great and had a good laugh and there was lots of touching and kissing etc etc. I had arranged to take her out for the day tomorrow, and txt her this morning to ask her what time suited her, but she hasn't txt'd back and that was about 8 hrs ago.

The question is, why do girls play this game, where they dont txt back, if it was one of my mates I txt'd they'd reply pretty soon, but girls always seem to revert to playing this waiting game....and it frustrates me. If she's not interested then I'd repsect her more if she just told me she was busy, had other plans.

The thing is, I guarantee she will txt me tomorrow and apologise for not txting and expect me to jump to her beck and call.

how'd you deal with these sort of games????
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rata Blanca

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Let her respond you.
If there's attraction as you said there was she will respond.
It's some kind of test so see how needy you are...
So what to do?
Test her back!
Woman LOVE challenges.
If you chase her what happens? The challenge dies.
So if she txt's you back you can simply act cool and confident and not make a big deal out of it cause anyway you were too busy with your life, make her think she is chasing you! act like this "so where are you taking me this time?"
One last tip, if she asks you "so what makes your life so busy etc" you can respond her with "Oh I dated this girl (or couple of girls) , she is great...etc" and quickly change the topic. You are giving her competition here...make her think you are in demand, cause you should be! you are the prize!
 

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Guys like you make too many assumptions early on. They think because they've gone out a few times and maybe even slept together that it means she's completely into you. The other point is the dates went well in your mind but she might have been faking her enjoyment level.

Lastly the reason she hasn't texted you back is because your not a challenge to her. Your too available and that doesn't intrigue a girl, she'll change her mind so quick it will leave you baffled when you don't challenge her.

How often do you talk to her?? In the beginning you should only be talking a few times a week at the most and go on 1 date and 1 date only per week. Once things escalate you can make a little bit more time for her.

I wouldn't NEXT her completely but start looking for new girls. If you ignore her blatant disrespect of your time, she'll get much worse with her behavior in the future.



PIMP
 

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I had a woman txt me and wonder why I did not immediately respond. I told her that I am not on call and would get back to her when I could.

She kept txting me yet would not answer the phone when I called. This was within 1 week of knowing her. What a fricken hassle. NEXT.

fan27
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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