Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No she won't. She has a need to feel "over" me on areas I have expertise on. Thus she will always try to boost someone else over me. It really cost me to discuss fitness things with her, so i keep it to myself.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
awww, ok.
It's alot of folks personalities. One thing for sure, nothing better than talking with an extremely intelligent person who can recognize it in you.
The women have similar scenarios. Think about Ike Turner, or exremely abusive and manipulative men, who drain the joy out of their women. Men who resent their success and good looks and go out of their way to tear her down.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah. I do accept it.
They are terrible azzholes always one upping each other.
Even one or two strong connections who want to see good for you will make all the difference.Yeah. I do accept it.
Acceptance is the answer. Live and let live.
Thank you again for the heads up.
I always felt that undercurrent in situations. If you feel it all the time, everywhere you go(not currently in my life) it makes you wonder if you should just stop talking about it because the people you talk to about it are the ones who won't admit they're stepping you down.
uck its challenging rebuilding new circles, new surroundings, new influences.
Worth the effort though
thanking you! I see why you love helping others now.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She purred...Spaz-y!!
Wait, let me get this straight. You want your next boyfriend to be banging other women aside from you?
its the one thing I never accepted. Relinquish all control.
You can only help so much. And you do not want to help everyone.
What women want and what women need are 2 completely different things.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It became a leftist political thing when Black Lives Matter began donating all of their money to democrats, and also when Joe Biden said “You’re not black if you are a republican” lol
I guess different environments need different people. Some environments needs police dogs and some a cute pet.