"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Which way to proceed

CFERD

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About a month ago I started saying hi, and soon thereafter, chatting up a woman who lives in an apartment complex I'm currenly working at. I think it's been about 5 or 6 short conversations we had so far. From my limited experience I'd guess she's interested, I haven't really given her any solid proof that I'm interested in her. She may know as women are good at picking up things like that, but I'd bet she isn't sure...I should have invited her out/ gotten her number the last time I saw her. Too much time building rapport/comfort maybe, anyhow I figured I'd see her again soon enough, but I haven't run into her in about a week and a half. It was common to run into eachother when it was nice out, now it's been really cold and raining recently. My question, rather than wait for a chance encounter, which option would be less intrusive..
A) Knock on her door and proceed and from there? or B) get her number from a neighbor of her's that I know pretty well. I'm not sure if I've read her interest level right, but there's only one way to find out for sure. Just looking for some other opinions.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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MisterMcGee

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Don't succumb to creepiness. Let yourself bump into her again, don't get frustrated or anxious.
 

goodfoot

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I don't think there is anything wrong with knocking on her door for an instadate.
 

everywomanshero

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Lol wel knocking on her door might not be the smoothest of ways to get the job done, but yea I'd try it and see what happens. If you were for sure in, then you'll still be in. Im sure she will call up her friends and say "Guess what this guy came to my door and asked me out...." and her friends will probably be pissed no one does that for them. heh. even if she shoots you down I think it will be an ego boost for her, admitted or not.
 

CFERD

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I think calling would be kida creepy. I've knocked on her door a few weeks back, she had been looking for a lady that works in the office. I happen to see the person she was looking for a little later, so I went over, rang her bell:crackup: and let her know. The last time I saw her, her neighbor and I were talking and I could tell she's a little more introverted than when we are talking one on one. Timing wasn't right. I figure there won't be any perfect moments headed my way any time soon. Yeah I figure if nothing else it'll be a ego boost, but I'll never know if I don't try.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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