Which Way To Do It?

[justiceseeker]

I've often wondered what's the best way to handle women and their shytty behavior. Is it better to call them out on it and get into a an argument, or is it better to not react verbally and withdraw your attention to show your displeasure?


I'm from the first camp. I'm not saying it's right, but it's usually how I react. If my girlfriend starts crap, I usually call her out on it. I'm very vocal with my emotions and I don't let a lot of things slip by. What usually ends up happening, is that we get into an argument, and she continues to do the same behavior that pissed me off in the beginning.

On the other hand, I have a friend of mine who handles his situation much different. When his girlfriend acts like a brat, flirts with other guys, or does things intentionall to get a reaction out of him, he simply doesn't react. He then pulls away his attention from her. He doesn't come right out and say that's what he's doing, he just does it. He won't admit he's mad, he just makes excuses why he can't spend as much time with her.


Seems like his way might be better.

His girlfriend's behavior has improved dramatically without him ever saying a word about it. See, women know what they're doing and they know it pisses you off. They thrive on testing you. If she does something to get a reaction from you, she knows what she's doing. When he pulls away his attention, she instinctively knows why he's doing it, but it bothers her that he won't admit it. In the end, she gets no satisfaction from her little stunts, and he gains control of the relationship.

 

[COD]

WELL DUH, anytime you are in control of your emotions YOU WIN. The moment you show ANYONE what your really thinking they instantly know YOUR WEAKNESS.

remember the 4 C's:calm, composed, cool, creative.

Lets say a fire breaks out, everyone is screaming, theres smoke, people running everywhere, etc.

Now imagine sitting calmly.......looking for the fire extinguisher and putting out the fire and acting like its no big thing, totally relaxed. Which scenario do u think speaks volumes about your confidence level or character.

 

[WalkingStick]

I think it's a situational thing. I agree with COD that it's better to be calm and confident most of the time. Never be afraid to speak your mind and never lose control when you do so. You must be in control of yourself in every situation.

If she does something absolutely unacceptable, go ahead and tell her. It's also worth noting that certain girls who usually dominate their relationships love to be called for their sh*t.

 

[justiceseeker]

WELL DUH, anytime you are in control of your emotions YOU WIN. The moment you show ANYONE what your really thinking they instantly know YOUR WEAKNESS.

remember the 4 C's:calm, composed, cool, creative.

Lets say a fire breaks out, everyone is screaming, theres smoke, people running everywhere, etc.

Now imagine sitting calmly.......looking for the fire extinguisher and putting out the fire and acting like its no big thing, totally relaxed. Which scenario do u think speaks volumes about your confidence level or character.

I find your "Duh" comment ironic. Coming from someone whose posts reek of DUH. CO DUH