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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

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Which text message to send

PeterCrouch

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Girl I work with, got her phone number Friday on her last day. She's off travelling for a month either tomorrow or Wednesday (I can't remember which) but I'm undecided what text to send her. No point calling and arranging a meet up just yet as like I said she's off tomorrow I think so just looking for something to keep her ticking over until she's back.

My two ideas are "I had THE dirtiest dream about you last night." Followed by building it up and the punch line being "You fell into a mud puddle...very dirty!"

or "Ok Ok, I've text you now...What are your final two wishes?"

Any thoughts? Any other ideas? Cheers
 

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Don't text her at all unless its small talk like once a week.
 

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PeterCrouch said:
Girl I work with, got her phone number Friday on her last day. She's off travelling for a month either tomorrow or Wednesday (I can't remember which) but I'm undecided what text to send her. No point calling and arranging a meet up just yet as like I said she's off tomorrow I think so just looking for something to keep her ticking over until she's back.

My two ideas are "I had THE dirtiest dream about you last night." Followed by building it up and the punch line being "You fell into a mud puddle...very dirty!"

or "Ok Ok, I've text you now...What are your final two wishes?"

Any thoughts? Any other ideas? Cheers

Sounds like canned, prepackaged, PUA material.

If you NEED to text this girl (tip: you don't), at least do it in your own voice.
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've got no issue with texting as I've built real good rapport that way.

But I do agree with Iceberg that it sounds like canned material, and a little like you're trying too hard. Just be natural and friendly. It goes a long way.
 

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Don't overthink it, either man up and give her a call.

Or simply texting her saying hi and asking how she is doing.

From there escalate it into a meetup, definitely don't go the canned route.
 

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at first i laughed when i read your texts and thought it was clever... btu then i realized it's just because im unfamiliar with the whole texting thing.


shizz is right... dont overthink, and just stay natural.
 

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both are very lame...why text her ?
Agree !!!
Why text her when you can call build some rapport and end the call when she Is having most fun (at the peak)...just break It like you must do something not like "I notice you having fun so I will end this call because I am playing mind games with you or because It makes me Insecure when someone else than me Is having fun" ... :)
 

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BTW. 2days ago I tested the rule that you should call after one to three days have passed, and It looks like It Is real ...Try not to call right away the next day live her one empty day and then call her just to talk
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

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I wouldn't bother texting her/ringing her! If she is off travelling for a month and she'll be back to work as per usual in a month's time, then I say just put her on the backburner and resume things when she returns.

You cannot meet up with her etc, because she is going away, just leave it until she gets back is my advice to you.
 

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Fellas one thing I want to point out is that as much as calling is better, and displays more confidence, builds rapport, etc., the probelm nowadays is a lot of women DON'T want to talk on the phone but rather text.

So texting is necessary sometimes these days.

One other thing, if this girl is going to be gone for a month I would just forget about her, cause I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but she will not be thinking about you during this time.
 

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PeterCrouch said:
Girl I work with, got her phone number Friday on her last day. She's off travelling for a month either tomorrow or Wednesday (I can't remember which) but I'm undecided what text to send her. No point calling and arranging a meet up just yet as like I said she's off tomorrow I think so just looking for something to keep her ticking over until she's back.

My two ideas are "I had THE dirtiest dream about you last night." Followed by building it up and the punch line being "You fell into a mud puddle...very dirty!"

or "Ok Ok, I've text you now...What are your final two wishes?"

Any thoughts? Any other ideas? Cheers
Don't text her. She's leaving for a month... you aren't going to keep things "ticking," you're going to fall into the friendzone for seeming needy. Drop her a line when she gets back, instead.

Those two examples sound like some of the early "text game" models- lame canned material that comes off as try hard. A high value man with a lot of options keeps things short, sweet and to the point- he doesn't try to impress girls with cutesy lines.
 

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PeterCrouch said:
Girl I work with, got her phone number Friday on her last day. She's off travelling for a month either tomorrow or Wednesday (I can't remember which) but I'm undecided what text to send her. No point calling and arranging a meet up just yet as like I said she's off tomorrow I think so just looking for something to keep her ticking over until she's back.

My two ideas are "I had THE dirtiest dream about you last night." Followed by building it up and the punch line being "You fell into a mud puddle...very dirty!"

or "Ok Ok, I've text you now...What are your final two wishes?"

Any thoughts? Any other ideas? Cheers
Don't say those two lines, they sound very desperate.

If you are going to text anything, you could say "Have a nice trip."
 

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