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Which muscles should be trained to keep a good posture?

Who Dares Win

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It comes in my mind the importance of "belt" muscles, those around your waist so abdominals and lower back, but somehow also upper back to balance the closing attitude of the shoulder coming from stronger pectorals.

Not sure about which muscles are needed to be strong to keep the head vertical to the ground instead of forward (like the case of those who spend much time in front of a computer).
 

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I believe the back in general is the best for posture, perhaps shoulders for breadth also. Deadlifts and pull ups would be my two cents for exercises for good posture.
 

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All of them. Don't look like a retard walking around with big arms and chest and chicken legs...

And remember, friends don't let friends skip leg day...
 

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marmel75 said:
All of them. Don't look like a retard walking around with big arms and chest and chicken legs...

And remember, friends don't let friends skip leg day...

Eh, one of my friends has horrible posture. He never trains legs.

Friends let friends skip leg day, and laugh at their chicken legs and bad posture.
 

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Deadlifts, behind-the-back barbell shrugs, normal shrugs, etc.
 

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It's important to work all your muscles, like other posters have said.

But, you can target specific muscle groups. #1 would be your core. Upper abs, lower abs, lower back, obliques. Plenty of exercises for all those, do one for each section 3 times per week.

Also, train yourself to suck in your gut and hold your shoulders back and your chin up as you walk. Could seem like a daunting task for guys with bad posture.

Also, train your rhomboids. Google it, you'll find plenty. A good stretching routine will help your posture as well.
 

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For posture, I'd focus on hamstrings and hip flexors.

For me, those tend to be the two main ones where you find an imbalance due to the seated nature of my work.

spinal erectors as well, can be trained with 'back raises' (hypers).

abs are important too but will be hit adequately if you do compound training, which you should. if you don't, IMO you aren't worthy of having good posture. ;)

Just run a youtube search for hamstring & hip flexor stretches, and do them every night before bed for 10 minutes, for a few months. I throw on my youtube subscriptions and stretch at the desk before bed, at least a few nights of the week.

it helps too, in daily life and activity. if you have a muscle imbalance it means load is unevenly distributed and you'll get tired more quickly and/or injured more easily.
 

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Who Dares Win said:
It comes in my mind the importance of "belt" muscles, those around your waist so abdominals and lower back, but somehow also upper back to balance the closing attitude of the shoulder coming from stronger pectorals.

Not sure about which muscles are needed to be strong to keep the head vertical to the ground instead of forward (like the case of those who spend much time in front of a computer).
Back and legs, mostly. Squats, kettlebell work, deadlifts.
 
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