Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Does it matter how it happen aslong as you get laid?...Originally posted by MrBond_Age
Is it just me or the wave of new users is wussified? All the major player know that they have to get the digits, the dates and the lay. The order isnt important.
No it doesnt. What matters is how YOU make things happen. Ill give you a secret: You cant make her interested in you if she wasnt interested in the first place. If you ask for her phone number and she declines, chances are she is not interested.Originally posted by Unforsaken
Does it matter how it happen aslong as you get laid?...
agree. anything but the number is weak. second choice is email. preferably both.Originally posted by MrBond_Age
Is it just me or the wave of new users is wussified? All the major player know that they have to get the digits, the dates and the lay. The order isnt important.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
this is weak game too. you said it yourself, it's a "low risk move". she knows it's a low risk move and probably assumes you're a wuss. she should know if you're a wuss or not BEFORE you call her. if you've done your groundwork on the initial contact, and she likes you, she will call back.Originally posted by Unforsaken
I prefer e-mail address. I don't bother calling, just leave a e-mail (also can plan the e-mail and make it perfect). It a low risk move. After she write it down tell her to write her # underneath (if she says no, you still got her e-mail. Also could make her say "What the hell, I already wrote my e-mail address). I have had alot of e-mail address by women and 99% has replied..
The reason # is higher rejection is because of all the wuss guys who get it and call her 9 times a day. She doesn't know if your one or not, so she might not want to take the risk.
Originally posted by TooColdUlrick
this is weak game too. you said it yourself, it's a "low risk move". she knows it's a low risk move and probably assumes you're a wuss. she should know if you're a wuss or not BEFORE you call her. if you've done your groundwork on the initial contact, and she likes you, she will call back.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Originally posted by TooColdUlrick
this is weak game too. you said it yourself, it's a "low risk move". she knows it's a low risk move and probably assumes you're a wuss. she should know if you're a wuss or not BEFORE you call her. if you've done your groundwork on the initial contact, and she likes you, she will call back.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.