"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Which conversation topics work best for you? (No pickup lines or simple greetings)
- Thread starter lazikia
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
AlexTheGreat
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My conversations are very situational so "topics" in particular don't matter since you just go with the flow.
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Do have have the social skills to hold a decent and clear conversation with anyone I meet?
That being said; does the person whom you are speaking with have the same ability?
If not either practice your social skills or move on...
GDOA
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daygameguy
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This simple tip saved me more times then I can count. It's one of the ONLY tips I remind myself, the rest of the convo goes naturally. If the convo is going bad for you, don't stress! Just think about this, put more enthusiasm in your words, you CAN'T go wrong with this one!
The main thing I focus on my conversations is to create a vibe of course. But the most interresting topic for other people is....... other people!
If you have an good eye, LOOK for things in their personality that even they didn't know of! xDSo fun for me. Always gets me laughing. I personally LOVE this, and they love it too of course. Funny to see their reactions.
I can't think of a good example, you have to figure it out yourself. I don't know if I could figure it out if I didn't saw it myself in actions, well!
The point would be to get an interresting topic of the most common things, you know? Then I start saying stuff like: So cmon, tell me something interresting you did last night, so I can see what kind of person you are.
Heck, even I don't exactly know how I get going, but it's so frikin easy. I don't know if you could pull it off if you're not happy yourself. As I am extremey happy with my persona, I always look at other people the same way, you just need to get in that mood.