"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Red chucks are way too bright. You can't see it on pictures but the color just explodes when you wear them with jeans, not really a good look.
 

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How about a pair of boat shoes? Those are pretty casual. Google "Zapatos Del Barcos Vans" and "Sperrys".
 

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I have three pairs of chucks: Red, Optical White and Black. I never wear anything else. Though I wear the red the least, as they don't go with as much.

In my opinion, red is good for wanting to stand out, but they have to go with what you're wearing. I wear a reasonable amount of red and blue (my name being Clark - lol) but if you don't then go with the other colour you chose out.

But good choice of brand. You can never go wrong with converse all-stars.
 

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DJ Axton said:
But good choice of brand. You can never go wrong with converse all-stars.
except when you're looking for durability.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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yeh i was thinking red was bright but it would look good with a casual jeans and shirt

the slateblue one is nice..but i feel like it's too close to navy, which i'm sick of seeing everyone wearing...and slate blue is too close to the color of most jeans i wear so it would kinda look strange

i think i'll get the red ones now..and the slate blue ones later, when my other shoes break down...and i think the black ones are pretty nice too'

ahh..not a big fan of boat shoes..there were some nice pumas too but nbone in my size at the moment..also tan jordan cue's are good but none in my size

i see your point captain, but i think i could use some bright shoes as most of my others are more blending..
 

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Jesus guys, you need to go on a forum to ask what kind of shoe i should buy?? geeze make your own choice, be yourself. Or better yet take a girl shopping and let her choose, just don't ask a bunch of guys on a dating forum lol
 

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Red is really bright and vibrant lol....get the blue. ^and i completely agree with analyzeit
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Analyzeit said:
Jesus guys, you need to go on a forum to ask what kind of shoe i should buy?? geeze make your own choice, be yourself. Or better yet take a girl shopping and let her choose, just don't ask a bunch of guys on a dating forum lol
I honestly don't think it's all that wrong like you guys make it seem like. Dude can't choose, and what's to know our opinion. Although maybe he should choose a different forum (a fashion forum maybe?) it's not a crime either.

But good luck to the OP. I'd pick a red pair of Vans Era's rather than Red Chucks. And like DJ Axton said wear a reasonable amount of blue and red. A simple look would look nice too, Red Era's, black or blue jeans, and a white v-neck.
 

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it's nice that you point out a my mistakes and a swear word, i have no idea what your trying to prove by that.

Maybe i did over react a little.

But you should be able to choose a shoe colour yourself, because it your own style.

I know if i wore the shoe's you've selected, i'd be disowned by my group of friends lol well not really but they'd get insulted. lots.

What i'm trying to say is, no one knows what else your going to wear with those shoes, what kind of shoe is popular where your at. Pretty much all the questions other then what colour shoe should i get. So you should really choose yourself. but you did and your only asking what the colour is so i shouldn't have really said anything.

And the red looks better :) lol
 
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