Which British guys REALLY cold approach? Be honest.

[L777]

And no, I don't mean in a bar, or on a bus, or after a class, or any situation where your naturally in close proximity to your target, cos I can do all that stuff pretty well already.

I mean, you're walking down the street and the girl is walking in the opposite direction, or she's sat down at a table outside a restaurant and you're walking past or something along those lines.

I don't, and I highly doubt I will in the near future. Does anyone have any suggestions specifically for these situations, specifically in the UK, cos I'd be grateful. But I don't mean any canned stuff (except maybe the very first opener), just like, how to go about stopping the girl and opening.

PS. If you're American then let me tell you, its considered weird to do this in the UK, a lot of my female friends tell me that they'd never give their number to someone who approached them 'outa the blue'.

At the moment, the only English dude I know of that is doing this (on this forum anyway) is Shezz, who I have major respect for, but his stuff seems mostly canned, which is what I want to avoid. Anyone else got any decent advice.

 

[Phyzzle]

You can try asking for directions and slowly moving around her as you talk, so that she's facing a different direction, and sort of forgets that she has somewhere to go. But when you start trying to ask about her, she's probably going to remember that she's not walking out here to talk to guys.

Basically, if they're walking somewhere, you'll have a hard time.

Oh, and chatting up someone on a bus or in a bar is definitely a cold approach in every sense of the word. CA just means you don't have a business or class reason to talk to her, and you have no friends in common.

 

[Jariel]

PS. If you're American then let me tell you, its considered weird to do this in the UK, a lot of my female friends tell me that they'd never give their number to someone who approached them 'outa the blue'.

I agree. I'm from the uk and have always found this too. I did try cold approaching at one time and women just assumed I was selling something. My female friends have also told me the same as you. It's risky business giving their number to a stranger and a brief encounter in the street isn't enough to build trust and rapport.

To be honest, some girls have turned me down after weeks of chatting on and off because they "wanted to get to know me better". Some of these girls - including some of my ex-girlfriends - had huge crushes on me and were all over me, and yet didn't trust me enough to go out with me (...at least not until we'd spent more time together).

I guess we British are generally quite sceptical and distrusting.

 

[Nighthawk]

Nailed a chick when I was buying shoes once, she was just another customer. Kept chatting, suggested drink, she was skeptical but one thing led to another.

But I don't think that's what you meant is it? There was a social setting, slim as it was, and I exploited it. Talking to other customers in a shop is not considered weird or desperate. Much as I'd prefer it to be otherwise, here in the UK approaching women in the street without invitation IS seen as weird and desperate, and even with my awesome skills would struggle to overcome that initial setback.

Also I think women should be free to walk the streets without being hit on by every other guy. Having had plenty of hot gfs I know how annoying or even scary this sort of unwarranted approach can be.

I meet enough women elsewhere anyway, when the social proof is on my side.

 

[Muzzlehatch]

Hi there,
I'd agree with what's been said, and I'm not that convinced its the best of ways for the American guys out there either. It just seems like 'doing things the hard way' to me. Isn't it better to find a way to 'warm approach', or do you have to rugby tackle the hottie walking down the street? This is where I have a bit of trouble with the idea of Mystery's hallowed '3 second rule'. I completely understand the reasoning behind it, but surely a few minutes reconnaissance first is a good idea? I don't mean stalking her for half an hour with a fedora and dark glasses, just some time spent working out if she's truly alone and figuring an intelligent approach. Sure, you've got to bite the bullet and do it, but we hear so much about timing in seduction, why should it be totally ignored on the approach?

I agree with your basic point. If a woman's on her phone, hurrying the opposite way and in the pouring rain, I can't see its realistically on, and you'd be setting yourself up for failure. Why do that?
But on the other hand, there are cold approaches and cold approaches. In town on a Saturday night there are groups of hot girls in a fun mood going about the street all over the place. This is very much on, with almost anything. Agreed?

 

[L777]

Hi there,
I'd agree with what's been said, and I'm not that convinced its the best of ways for the American guys out there either. It just seems like 'doing things the hard way' to me. Isn't it better to find a way to 'warm approach', or do you have to rugby tackle the hottie walking down the street? This is where I have a bit of trouble with the idea of Mystery's hallowed '3 second rule'. I completely understand the reasoning behind it, but surely a few minutes reconnaissance first is a good idea? I don't mean stalking her for half an hour with a fedora and dark glasses, just some time spent working out if she's truly alone and figuring an intelligent approach. Sure, you've got to bite the bullet and do it, but we hear so much about timing in seduction, why should it be totally ignored on the approach?

I agree with your basic point. If a woman's on her phone, hurrying the opposite way and in the pouring rain, I can't see its realistically on, and you'd be setting yourself up for failure. Why do that?
But on the other hand, there are cold approaches and cold approaches. In town on a Saturday night there are groups of hot girls in a fun mood going about the street all over the place. This is very much on, with almost anything. Agreed?

Yea, agreed. It would just be sweet to pick some hottie up, literally "off the street" in the daytime, but I just can't see it happening to be honest. However, I'm decent at the cold approaches I mentioned at the start of the original post and "warm approaches", so I won't complain.

 

[L777]

Haha, good stuff Shezz. I think field reports are lame (thats just my opinion so don't argue the toss) but I've decided I'm gonna do a completely 'cold' approach in Manchester city centre tomorrow and then post what happens.

Ey Shezz, cheers for the inspiration, if you can do it, (in theory) so can I!

 

[Zero Hero]

Hey Shezz...you ever met anyone from the forum?