"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wheres the transition?

trippychip

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I was just wondering at what point do you go from just dating to bf/gf? like when i was in junior high youd ask a girl to go out with you and that would mean your bf/gf. But if i did that to a girl this day it would scare the **** out of her. So where is the transition? First kiss? first time you bang? or is it just when one asks to go steady? different for everyone?

How do you guys do it?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wavejams007

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Originally posted by A&F Brand Cologne
yeah smelling her usually makes her your girlfriend.
Dude A and F, retty funny comment. Heck, everyone could then be great players. We'd all just go around getting high on every girls' perfumes and stuff.
 

Mr. Debonaire

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Originally posted by A&F Brand Cologne
yeah smelling her usually makes her your girlfriend.
....lmao

when your naked in a broken bed, underwear hanging off the broken objects littering the floor, just say "so i guess this means were going out" :D
 

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Thanks for the laugh, mister6.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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wavejams007

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Hey, let's face it, if we can be this big penises, maybe we wont need viagra later on. haha.:p
 
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