"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Where were you and where you are now?

nonameok

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I would like to hear stories about how you used to be, and what you done to improve yourself. Give us a snapshot of before and after.

My participation is not necessary as I'm not where I want to be in my love life.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Splendidostring

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Hola

Right now, I've got no girl or anything.

I just started school and I'm building a new social circle. I'm actually looking for a LTR.

Where I'm from : Recovering AFC, I'm still learning. I learned/watched stuff from DeAngelo mainly and a few others I can recall names. I applied in real life what I've learned and was able to become what I wanted, better in social situation including woman.
 
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I'm 23, and I was a chump beyond all chumps. Last year I made a serious effort at improving and I did make some progress. I managed to get a girl's phone number (the first time in my life) and had some pretty good approaches in which I think getting the number would have been easy if I'd just asked.

Then I kind of got the wind taken out of my sails by one really disastrous approach, as well as getting very busy with my new job.


But now I've settled in to the job pretty well, and that bad approach is a distant memory and I'm getting ready to make another round of progress.
 

MisterMcGee

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6 months ago I was an AFC but I was still a great funny charismatic dude so thank god my AFCness didn't shine through to the oneitis I had.
Now, I realize that being in the right mindset and having a great inner 'game' is awesome. It just feels good.

Also, KEEP THINGS LIGHT. Don't be dramatic, or make a big deal out of things, or expect anything from anyone. You don't need to do certain things to reach the end result, just go with the flow and chill.
 
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