"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Where to take this girl?

onemorerobot

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I've been going out with this girl for a little over a week now. The first date was preceded by us hanging out at the mall. It was a last minute thing. She wanted to hang out. The next night we were supposed to go bowling, but she says she doesn't like bowling, so we end up having dinner and going to the batting cages. For the rest of the night we drive around town trying to find a park that isn't occupied, with no success. She also tells me that she doesn't really enjoy going to the movies, but she does enjoy playing videogames. What else is there to do? Yesterday, I picked her up and brought her back to my place, then we went to eat, washed my car, and then walked around the park for a while. I want to do something with her this weekend, but she doesn't seem to like doing much of anything.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DJinTraining06

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onemorerobot said:
I've been going out with this girl for a little over a week now. The first date was preceded by us hanging out at the mall. It was a last minute thing. She wanted to hang out. The next night we were supposed to go bowling, but she says she doesn't like bowling, so we end up having dinner and going to the batting cages. For the rest of the night we drive around town trying to find a park that isn't occupied, with no success. She also tells me that she doesn't really enjoy going to the movies, but she does enjoy playing videogames. What else is there to do? Yesterday, I picked her up and brought her back to my place, then we went to eat, washed my car, and then walked around the park for a while. I want to do something with her this weekend, but she doesn't seem to like doing much of anything.

I'd be careful wit that type. the ones who don't seem to like to do anything. You just stated seeing this one too, not a good sign at all. They usually r dumb as sh*t and have a very short attention span. Very narrow minded as well. I dated 2 girls like that. One of them never wanted to do a thing, i was whipped and ended up sititng on her couch with her parnts on frid and sat nights almost religiously. We'd go out to dinner thats all, and i couldnt even take her somewhere nice or at least, she wanted to do diners all the time, the one right by her house. And we live a train ride a way from manhattan. I couldnt not understand this at all. Valentines day i took her to a nice italain restaurant, and she kept sayin u know it woulda been nice at home. (her parents were home that nite) So strange. She hated goin to the movies, broadway plays, comedy clubs, pool, bowling, pretty much anything. She'd want me to go to the gym with her and id go soemtimes and she wanted to leave after 10 mins. She had the attention span of a hosue fly. Not sayin your girl is like this but watch out. if ur in it for the noookie then hey who cares :)
 

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Dammit dammit dammit! She did tell me that she has ADD. At first I thought she was kidding, but apparently she's not. Mother****ing piss!
 

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Dammit dammit dammit! She did tell me that she has ADD. At first I thought she was kidding, but apparently she's not. Mother****ing piss!

haha damm i may be right. Hopefully for ur sake no. Trust me tho, be a man and insist on doing ****, dont let her turn u into a bore. My girl ate me alive and i was a whipped wuss sitting with her folks on the couch. just set a precendent early that u wanna do ****, and maybe shell be cool.
 

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I guess it's not so much that she doesn't like doing things, but rather she doesn't want to do them when I suggest them. She was hinting that she didn't want to go bowling, because she doesn't like sports, yet two minutes later she suggests the batting cages? She says she doesn't like movies much, unless it's cold outside. I don't really care what we ****ing do at this point. I'm just trying to get to know her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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onemorerobot said:
... I don't really care what we ****ing do at this point. I'm just trying to get to know her.
Sounds like a good enough reason to just ask her what she does in her spare time. There's two of you y'know, it's doesn't have to always be up to you for entertainment. Each of you should pull your own weight.
 

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I have asked her what she likes to do, and all I ever get is "just hang out". This weekend I'm not even going to ask her to do anything with me, I'm just going to tell her that I'm picking her up.
 

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I have asked her what she likes to do, and all I ever get is "just hang out". This weekend I'm not even going to ask her to do anything with me, I'm just going to tell her that I'm picking her up.
You have more fortitude than me. That type of woman just bores me to tears. Don't get me wrong, I've had women hang out with me when I went grocery shopping or other regular mundane activities but the thing was that they were active with me and not just hanging around like a loose thread.

Good for you for taking the reigns. Hopefully you're picking an activity that you enjoy at least a little.
 

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Well, my plan is to pick her up and then make a trip to Toys "R" Us where I'll purchase the board game, "Boggle". Then it's possible that I might stop somewhere for some wine. She said she likes wine. After that, we'll head back to my place where if all goes well, we'll end up doing some serious making out, if not more.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Sounds like the perfect chick to date!

*no casual boring dates*

!!!!!
 
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