where to start out?

[goshen]

Hi,

I've now read and listened to so much information on the subject that I think I've overloaded. My issue is that even after getting the basics of how to approach, how to become more confident, etc etc it still doesn't feel right and I have too much fear of being laughed at or slapped.

I'm in the perfect place right now where I am moving overseas in 3 months and should therefore have no cares or worries at all on making a fool of myself, getting serious, or approaching in general, but I just can't force myself to do it. Even in Strauss' training diary I can't get through day 1.

Does anyone besides the obvious just do it mentality, have any suggestions on where to start or what to do to work up to that moment?

Ultimately, I think I would do better in a daytime environment given that I'm a tall, attractive guy whom has to dress for success. Surely it shouldn't be that difficult to go up and start a conversation but where do I start?

Many thanks in advance.

 

[brian123]

I think you just have to get rejected many times. After a while, you won't care. Worked for me.

 

[the d-rock]

I agree with brian and you almost have to chunk this stuff. I think it took me over like 50 rejections till the point I didnt give a **** anymore.

I also recommened innergame work as well. A lot of people dont stress that part but if you dont truly like yourself first and arent afraid to be yourself then women wont want to be around you or atleast the ones you want.

 

[wjh]

Also work on developing your personal style, looks, and hit the gym. Let's not minnimize the importance of looking good.

And yea, get rejected a bunch. Experiment and learn about yourself.

 

[brian123]

I still get rejected quite a bit by women. I am still working on my game. When I come home at night from a night out at the bars, the worst feelings I ever have is when I don't try over when I try and fail.