Where to find non social media obsessed women?

[DreamAgain]

I'm having trouble in the dating market and really could use some advice what to do.

So far, be it in person or online dating avenues, overwhelmingly I have run into girls who seem to be completely brain rotted. They are addicted to reels, addicted to short form content, speak in patterns mimicking what they consume on social media.

Add on to this consuming toxic content on Netflix, HBO, reality TV (the amount of profiles saying they love trashy reality TV on Hinge is quite startling), brunch, dogs, and using therapy speak is making me question what is actually going on.

Add in the extreme entitlement probably garnered from unrealistic social media expectations, the lack of ability to string together several coherent thoughts/sentences due to over reliance of chatgpt, I am getting quite depressed as to what the dating market is offering.

Is there anywhere in the world I can go to avoid this? What I would like is to find girls who I can go to museums or art galleries with, to discuss books/ideas, girls who like to go for walks, have a worldly perspective beyond consumerism/materialism.

I thought NYC or Chicago would be good options for this, being so walkable, having many cultural events available, but I've found that any girl who is slim and between the ages of 24-30 (I'm 33), is really just like what I'm mentioning above.

Willing to travel internationally and learn other languages if that's what it takes.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Is there anywhere in the world I can go to avoid this?

Any third world country. Make sure she doesn't have the power to vote there and child support is either very minimal or non existing. There, you have your fixed female.

 

[pipeman84]

Is there anywhere in the world I can go to avoid this? What I would like is to find girls who I can go to museums or art galleries with, to discuss books/ideas, girls who like to go for walks, have a worldly perspective beyond consumerism/materialism.

I thought NYC or Chicago would be good options for this, being so walkable, having many cultural events available, but I've found that any girl who is slim and between the ages of 24-30 (I'm 33), is really just like what I'm mentioning above.

According to a quick search on google, NYC + Chicago population is around 11M people. If one includes the metropolitan areas, then it's over 30M people! In this context, anyone who suggests you need to go to a different country to find a girl is obviously talking nonsense.

Most probably you won't find what you're looking for on Hinge or other dating apps. I'd suggest you go to those cultural events you're interested in and maybe you'll meet her there. Or you'll meet someone that will introduce you to the kind of girl you're looking for. Also you could join groups/forums that cater to people interested in arts, museums and so on.

 

[HaleyBaron]

According to a quick search on google, NYC + Chicago population is around 11M people. If one includes the metropolitan areas, then it's over 30M people! In this context, anyone who suggests you need to go to a different country to find a girl is obviously talking nonsense.

Most probably you won't find what you're looking for on Hinge or other dating apps. I'd suggest you go to those cultural events you're interested in and maybe you'll meet her there. Or you'll meet someone that will introduce you to the kind of girl you're looking for. Also you could join groups/forums that cater to people interested in arts, museums and so on.

Except that's the point. We have millions of women and every single one of them are deranged.

The exception is a very restricted religious girl at home. Like very strict. Not allowed to touch technology or anything. That's the best you can do in the US.

 

[DreamAgain]

Any third world country. Make sure she doesn't have the power to vote there and child support is either very minimal or non existing. There, you have your fixed female.

Hmm, I would prefer European, just so that my future kids look similar to me.

The problem is I have traveled across Europe too and the big cities seem to be plagued with this problem as well.

 

[DreamAgain]

According to a quick search on google, NYC + Chicago population is around 11M people. If one includes the metropolitan areas, then it's over 30M people! In this context, anyone who suggests you need to go to a different country to find a girl is obviously talking nonsense.

Most probably you won't find what you're looking for on Hinge or other dating apps. I'd suggest you go to those cultural events you're interested in and maybe you'll meet her there. Or you'll meet someone that will introduce you to the kind of girl you're looking for. Also you could join groups/forums that cater to people interested in arts, museums and so on.

Yes, it seems crazy but this is how it is.

I have gone to these various events and meetups and found mostly overweight women or ones that have other problems (remember about 80% of the USA is overweight, 40% are obese).

 

[pipeman84]

Yes, it seems crazy but this is how it is.

I have gone to these various events and meetups and found mostly overweight women or ones that have other problems (remember about 80% of the USA is overweight, 40% are obese).

You can't guide your life by statistics (even those you cite are most probably not accurate, as you're interested in the 24-30yrs old range and overweight/obesity is more prevalent in the +35 category).

You're looking for a mid-late 20s intellectual girl, what you and @HaleyBaron are practically saying is that they don't exist in the NYC-Chicago area or if they do they are obese. Like, really?

 

[HaleyBaron]

Hmm, I would prefer European, just so that my future kids look similar to me.

The problem is I have traveled across Europe too and the big cities seem to be plagued with this problem as well.

Eastern Europe is better, but watch out for gold diggers.

You're looking for a mid-late 20s intellectual girl, what you and @HaleyBaron are practically saying is that they don't exist in the NYC-Chicago area or if they do they are obese. Like, really?

They don't exist ever in the states. The exceptions are the deeply religious type locked in their room and under father and mother's strict parentage. And likely in their younger years before 23.

 

[DreamAgain]

You can't guide your life by statistics (even those you cite are most probably not accurate, as you're interested in the 24-30yrs old range and overweight/obesity is more prevalent in the +35 category).

You're looking for a mid-late 20s intellectual girl, what you and @HaleyBaron are practically saying is that they don't exist in the NYC-Chicago area or if they do they are obese. Like, really?

Buy a ticket and go see for yourself.

You are likely to get a tattooed drug user girl or an ultra feminist, maybe combination of both.

 

[Solomon]

According to a quick search on google, NYC + Chicago population is around 11M people. If one includes the metropolitan areas, then it's over 30M people! In this context, anyone who suggests you need to go to a different country to find a girl is obviously talking nonsense.

Most probably you won't find what you're looking for on Hinge or other dating apps. I'd suggest you go to those cultural events you're interested in and maybe you'll meet her there. Or you'll meet someone that will introduce you to the kind of girl you're looking for. Also you could join groups/forums that cater to people interested in arts, museums and so on.

If I was OP I would also try for small town women, IME they are far more traditional and some make far better girlfriends.

 

[Vanderdonck]

China, Saudi Arabia, Iran, etc.

 

[Hal9000]

I suppose its somewhat counterintuitive but the big cities are where the women are going to be most afflicted with this issue. Id suggest trying to find some women who aren't afraid to be unplugged by engaging in groups with outdoor activities. Women into outdoorsy stuff are usually less reliant on ther phones because those activities require the phones either be left behind or at least turned off and put away due to a lack of signal. Youre never gonna find a modern woman who is completely detached from phone life but if you can find one thats comfortable with not being online for hours at a time, thats a decent compromise.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

I have gone to these various events and meetups and found mostly overweight women or ones that have other problems (remember about 80% of the USA is overweight, 40% are obese).

Sounds like you are basically looking for a needle in a haystack. How do you find a needle in a haystack? Simple, you burn the haystack. The not so simple part is translating this metaphor/idiom to real life actions.

Quick Google search:


Solutions Applied to the Metaphor
The strategies for finding an actual needle in a haystack provide practical approaches for solving these complex, real-world problems:

• Use specialized tools (the magnet/metal detector): In real life, this translates to using specialized technology such as machine learning algorithms to sift through large datasets for specific patterns, advanced imaging (MRI, CT scans, X-rays), or powerful database search algorithms.
• Eliminate the "haystack" (burn or float the hay): This means using methods to quickly discard irrelevant information. In data analysis, this is achieved through feature selection or filtering, which removes non-essential data points to narrow down the scope of the search. In a physical scenario, one could burn the hay (metal doesn't burn) or put it in water (hay floats, the needle sinks) to separate the materials based on their properties.
• Systematic Searching (sifting strand by strand): While inefficient for a physical haystack, this is the basis of methodical data processing. Breaking the problem down into smaller, manageable parts (processing data in chunks, checking one area at a time) ensures that no potential "needle" is overlooked.
• Change the environment (vibrating platform): Placing the haystack on a vibrating surface would cause the denser needle to fall to the bottom, simplifying the search to just one area. In real-world problem-solving, this means reframing the problem or changing the parameters of the search to make the target stand out.
• Consult an expert or use an established process: Rather than trying to invent a solution from scratch, one might employ a proven search process or consult experts who have experience with similar problems.

 

[Hoodie]

I'm having trouble in the dating market and really could use some advice what to do.

So far, be it in person or online dating avenues, overwhelmingly I have run into girls who seem to be completely brain rotted. They are addicted to reels, addicted to short form content, speak in patterns mimicking what they consume on social media.

Add on to this consuming toxic content on Netflix, HBO, reality TV (the amount of profiles saying they love trashy reality TV on Hinge is quite startling), brunch, dogs, and using therapy speak is making me question what is actually going on.

Add in the extreme entitlement probably garnered from unrealistic social media expectations, the lack of ability to string together several coherent thoughts/sentences due to over reliance of chatgpt, I am getting quite depressed as to what the dating market is offering.

Is there anywhere in the world I can go to avoid this? What I would like is to find girls who I can go to museums or art galleries with, to discuss books/ideas, girls who like to go for walks, have a worldly perspective beyond consumerism/materialism.

I thought NYC or Chicago would be good options for this, being so walkable, having many cultural events available, but I've found that any girl who is slim and between the ages of 24-30 (I'm 33), is really just like what I'm mentioning above.

Willing to travel internationally and learn other languages if that's what it takes.

Just as it is rare to find a man not addicted to those things or addicted to video games, as rare will it be to find a girl who isn't addicted to those things.

Putting yourself out there can help you weed out those addicted women until you find what you're looking for.

And remember, if you are not yourself what you're looking for, then what you're looking for will reject you.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Willing to travel internationally

Unfortunately, you'll need to travel temporally to escape the madness.

 

[BaronOfHair]

"Non-obsessed" ain't hard to find, but I suspect that you're REALLY in the market for a gal who has little-zero presence on social media... In today's landscape, such a find is more rare than an inhabitant of 1980s New York or Los Angeles, who DIDN'T dip into The Nose Candy a dozen times or more

Today, most profitable business view anyone who ISN'T on social media in some capacity with suspicion, and it's almost impossible for entrepreneurs to have a presence on such forums

 

[The Duke]

There's a big difference between someone that is raised with city morals & values vs. those brought up in the country.

If I wanted a girl that wasn't

I'm having trouble in the dating market and really could use some advice what to do.

So far, be it in person or online dating avenues, overwhelmingly I have run into girls who seem to be completely brain rotted. They are addicted to reels, addicted to short form content, speak in patterns mimicking what they consume on social media.

Add on to this consuming toxic content on Netflix, HBO, reality TV (the amount of profiles saying they love trashy reality TV on Hinge is quite startling), brunch, dogs, and using therapy speak is making me question what is actually going on.

Add in the extreme entitlement probably garnered from unrealistic social media expectations, the lack of ability to string together several coherent thoughts/sentences due to over reliance of chatgpt, I am getting quite depressed as to what the dating market is offering.

Is there anywhere in the world I can go to avoid this? What I would like is to find girls who I can go to museums or art galleries with, to discuss books/ideas, girls who like to go for walks, have a worldly perspective beyond consumerism/materialism.

I thought NYC or Chicago would be good options for this, being so walkable, having many cultural events available, but I've found that any girl who is slim and between the ages of 24-30 (I'm 33), is really just like what I'm mentioning above.

Willing to travel internationally and learn other languages if that's what it takes.

Does your dating profile on Hinge state anything about preferring someone that isn't into social media? It needs too.

The type of people that are less likely to use social media will have these traits:

-Don't need external validation
-High Self Awareness
-They have hobbies, and live their life with purpose
-Strong Boundaries
-Goal Driven
-They prefer to connect with others in person
-They are critical thinkers
-Don't like drama
-They live in the present

You will find more of these types of people in small towns, particularly in farming/ranching communities in the midwestern United States than you will in large cities. Or they grew up in small towns and moved to big cities for their career.

I'd start hanging out more at the places you mentioned(museums, parks, etc), perhaps volunteering.

 

[HaleyBaron]

There's a big difference between someone that is raised with city morals & values vs. those brought up in the country.

If I wanted a girl that wasn't

Does your dating profile on Hinge state anything about preferring someone that isn't into social media? It needs too.

The type of people that are less likely to use social media will have these traits:

-Don't need external validation
-High Self Awareness
-They have hobbies, and live their life with purpose
-Strong Boundaries
-Goal Driven
-They prefer to connect with others in person
-They are critical thinkers
-Don't like drama
-They live in the present

You will find more of these types of people in small towns, particularly in farming/ranching communities in the midwestern United States than you will in large cities. Or they grew up in small towns and moved to big cities for their career.

I'd start hanging out more at the places you mentioned(museums, parks, etc), perhaps volunteering.

Don't tell him to put that on his social app.

1) It's redundant [if she is using Hinge, she is already a social media girl]
2) He needs to get off dating apps in general. Meet women in person.
3) Telling a girl that doesn't come off as sexy and is almost childish in saying such a thing.

 

[BaronOfHair]

There's a big difference between someone that is raised with city morals & values vs. those brought up in the country.

Yeah... Discovered this the hard way during that winter I spent in Peoria, and each gal I bedded tried to coax me into wearing a goat costume, BEFORE we copulated

While I remain less than enthusiastic today, whenever a city girl walks into the boudoir clad in only a strap-on/tries persuading me into getting down on all fours, it's a relief to remember that kinks far more aberrant exist

 

[plumber]

in short your looking for a nice girl that is attractive, sexy, loyal, smart, submissive, is not ruled by group think, not chasing status online or offline, and likes you. sounds nice.

when you find such a girl what will you do with her ?

[typical ss answer: sex as soon as i can, or move on]

and... why will she choose you ?

[typical ss answer: because i am alpha, or, I can name all the red pill rules]

if you don't see or notice girls like your say your looking for it is because you live your life in places and ways they do not. there are girls like that but you will not find them in the club or hookup apps. you might have to invest some time in ways that currently do not make sense to you and interact with other men that currently seem out of touch for you.