"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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where to find approachable women?

spang

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ok i can approach women now. for the past month ive been bar hopping every weekend, hanging out in coffee shops, book stores, walmart, best buy, etc. the problem is when im in those places, all of the women i see are with a dude already. either that or they are in large groups of friends. i would say that 80% of the girls are with a guy already, 15% are in groups, that leaves 5% for me to talk to. that 5% can be unattractive, they could be the female bartenders who are too busy to talk, single moms with kids, etc. i have made approaches in these places, its just slim pickings.
i cant find potential targets lately. im getting out more, but most of my approaches have been at school. it seems like the cold approach on the street or after class is better, with a girl who is by herself. i see more girls by themselves at school.
i had a friend suggest signing up for other classes like ball room dancing, cooking, etc. im not into that stuff at all but i guess i have to do something? this is getting frustrating for me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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georgie24

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seriously dude your looking at this prospective from within a glass box

YOU CAN APPROACH WOMEN ANYWHERE THE MOMENT YOU STEP FOOT OUT YOUR DOOR

do you think women "open" up to be seduced only in certain locations?

be attractive, be confident, approach

its that easy
 

spang

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well its more of an issue of myself. im extremely uncomfortable approaching groups, or women who are already speaking to someone else. im dont like trying to talk them when they are busy. its not the location, its the situation. hell im still uncomforable approaching women period but i make myself do it.
like the other day i was in the gym and there was this girl working out on a machine. there were a lot of people on treadmills on the row behind her. i wanted to approach her badly but i couldnt make myself do it. busy target+people watching me=much more stress.
 

spang

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like said its not location its the situation. but youre saying im still not confident enough?
 

PDubb75

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One of my favorite places to approach is at a sporting event. The bleachers in Wrigley Field is a gold mine. It is stadium-style seating, and if the sun is out, most girls are there in bikinis. They are all drinking, having fun, and it's so easy to open. Same is for when I go to Bears games and tailgate in the parking lot beforehand. So easy to start up convos with anyone in these settings, if you keep it fun and light.

But georgie is right. Anywhere and everywhere. You just may need to change the method of approaching for different settings.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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spang

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i make approaches at school. there i am surrounded by beautiful girls all younger than me, but a lot of them are immature and rude. if i go in a store or the mall, women are never alone. its always in groups or with their man. im not going to bars anymore because every girl there is with a guy. even at school its the same problem. this is real problem for me. how do i deal with it?
for example, theres a girl in my engineering class who i sit beside and we got to talking. theres this guy who i guess is her "friend" who sits by her in class and seems to follow her around after class. i wish that fvcker would go away so i can get her number. im not sure what his agenda is, but im uncomfortable making my move when hes there.
does anybody ever just spit it out "hey let me call you sometime, whats your number" right in front of her guy friends? i hate other people seeing me do this.
 

bluenorther

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I sometimes get asked to add "color" to local events by dressing in period attire. For some reason, you can approach ANYBODY this way! The barriers vanish. If I stop for errands on the way home, it's no different-- people open up.
 
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