Where to draw the line

[babsan]

Well, I just got home from clubbing. Had a lot of fun dancing and fooling around with mates. Did a couple of approaches, nothing really successful, but that doesn't bother me. What does, is the fact I almost got into a fight.

Some stranger was talking **** when I was about to go home with a friend. He was was standing in front of me and suddenly he bumped his head into mine. Dunno what the word for it is in English. It was like Zidane did in the World Cup final (football). I didn't feel anything though and decided just to leave. He was with 3 or 4 buddies, I only had my wingman. Should I have reacted physically? I know he would have been easy to beat, him being pissed and slim. However, I don't know how his friends would have responded. What it a good decision going home without getting back at the dude?

 

[Rex Man]

While I do pity your plight, I have nothing useful for you save this; in the states, our football SUPER BOWL consisted of the Bears and the Colts. We sometimes even forget soccer exists. And Zidane is some obscure character from Final Fantasy. Thank you for your time.

 

[Obsidian]

2:1 odds doesn't sound real great to me, but it's hard to judge without being there. Since he hit you first, you might have been legally justified in retaliating.

If it didn't even hurt, tho, I probably would have done the same thing you did. Imo, starting fights is generally bad, even tho in this case he technically started it

 

[babsan]

Yea I always try to avoid fights, but you have to draw the line somewhere and I'm thinking he crossed it although I didn't react like that. He did he me hard, but not on the nose. He could have broken my nose, his intentions were clear...

 

[Play the Game]

If you're outnumbered don't even think about it.
Haha Zidane! what a sore loser.

 

[So pimp its scary]

2:1 odds doesn't sound real great to me, but it's hard to judge without being there. Since he hit you first, you might have been legally justified in retaliating.

If it didn't even hurt, tho, I probably would have done the same thing you did. Imo, starting fights is generally bad, even tho in this case he technically started it

This is a bit untrue... think about it, any time cops get involved in a fight, what do you think the first words that comes out of anyones mouth is : "It was self-defense, he hit me first."

So, cops assume that whoever WINS the fight STARTED the fight, and will act accordingly. Remember, everyone lies to cops, so they take pretty much anything that gets told to them with a grain of salt.

Now, with the 4 against 2, well, I hate to break it to you, but say you did knockout the first guy, I'll tell you right now, the next toughest guy would have jumped in, if not all of them.

 

[everywomanshero]

He was with 3 or 4 buddies, I only had my wingman. Should I have reacted physically? I know he would have been easy to beat, him being pissed and slim. However, I don't know how his friends would have responded. What it a good decision going home without getting back at the dude?

The other guys in the club are irrelevant.

They focus on other guys because they see us as the barreir to success. They think if they could just get rid of all the DJs, then the women would finally be theirs. What they don;t realize is that they are the reason for their own failures.

I try to ignore these kind of weirdos as much as possible. I try to befriend the cool guys, as it never hurts to expand one's social network anyway. The point to go to club is to fvck the hotter girls there, not to pretend to be a macho man and fight all the guys who will go home alone anyway.

 

[lookyoung]

I think he crossed the line. If someone would headbutt me I don't care if he was 6"5 270 pounds I would smack the sh1t out of him. Listen if you work out, walk around in a confident manner you will not get guys headbutting you.

The bullies go after the weak. Workout, join a martial art. Walk with a good posture. This will avoid 99.9% of these situations.

 

[Obsidian]

bah, it sounds like it was a tough call to make. I'm all about self-defense, but this situation was kind of ambiguous as to whether you'd really be defending yourself or starting a fight. Since you didn't really get hurt by his attack, don't sweat it.

 

[lookyoung]

bah, it sounds like it was a tough call to make. I'm all about self-defense, but this situation was kind of ambiguous as to whether you'd really be defending yourself or starting a fight. Since you didn't really get hurt by his attack, don't sweat it.

I know he was not hurt, but it was very disrespectful. What if he would have been with a girl? Should he have just walked away?

The way I was raised is respect everyone, be a nice guy, but don't take sh1t from anybody. I always live my life that way.

 

[Obsidian]

yes it was disrespectful, but you can't start a fight every time someone disses you. The law recognizes that morality, which is why you end up in jail for starting fights. If the guy had just heaped a bunch of insults on him verbally, that would have been disrespectful, too, but I wouldn't advise babsan to punch the guy out because of it.

Always stand up for yourself verbally, and always be prepared to defend yourself physically if the other guy takes it to the next level. That's my philosophy, anyway.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

Yeah I'd say it was a good idea not to fight. The thing about fighting is it would feel good to beat the guy up. But its risky because you could screw up your whole life. What I do is I only fight if either its self defence or I am defending someone I love. Other than that **** the guy I'll just talk ****.