"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Where to buy Peacocking clothes!?

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Originally posted by seanchai
Sadly, you can't stand out in a crowded bar the moment you walk in with your words and actions. Things would be a lot easier for us if that were the case. Personal style, particularly conspicuous style, can convey a lot of good things about you. I know you don't like fuzzy purple vests (not something I would wear), but surely you don't have a problem with a guy who dresses rockstar cool when he goes out? You're not advocating Dockers and a polo shirt, right?
i advocate the sophisticated, stylish rockstar look.

not retarded kid in a yellow vinyl coat look.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by splinterkb
Yeah it'll attract attention, and yeah they'll think its funny, but they won't take you seriously.
Bingo!

Mr. Mystery
 

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Originally posted by seanchai
Sadly, you can't stand out in a crowded bar the moment you walk in with your words and actions. Things would be a lot easier for us if that were the case. Personal style, particularly conspicuous style, can convey a lot of good things about you. I know you don't like fuzzy purple vests (not something I would wear), but surely you don't have a problem with a guy who dresses rockstar cool when he goes out? You're not advocating Dockers and a polo shirt, right?
Yes, you can stand out the moment you walk into a crowded bar with just your B/L, actions and/or words, even in Dockers and a Polo.

And yes, I'm speaking from experience.

BTW, I went out on NYE in a black dress shirt and jeans and several people thought I was the owner/manager of the club/bar.

One guy was even convinced that I was "connected" like Tony Soprano

And all of that, without dressing up like some kind of fruit and without trying to achieve that effect.

It's just a by-product of being and looking confident, relaxed and in control.

Of having a "presence" without trying to have one.

Anyone can dress loudly and stand out from the crowd, but standing out from the crowd while dressing in an understated manner is far more effective.

And don't dress like a rockstar unless you actually are one, otherwise, you end up looking like a wannabe try-hard.

Again, too many people looking for a shortcut.

"Peacocking" does not make you anything more than what you already are.
 

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When you went out in a black dress shirt and jeans, did you finish the night by having sex with a model you met that night? When you dress average, there's always going to be someone who is also dressed average but is taller, stronger, better looking, better hair, whatever. If you dress outlandishly, whether furry vest or rockstar style, you're not being compared to better looking guys wearing average stuff. It makes you stand out and puts you in a different class from average guys, that's all.

That said, it's hard to find peacocking clothes on the internet. You can find maybe one or two unique and cool items in each major city in the world; the key to getting good peacocking stuff is travelling. It doesn't have to be furry vests and New Rocks, either. For instance, I have silver shoes from London, gold shoes from Japan, cool jeans from Australia, an awesome jacket from France, etc etc. As Geoff puts it, wear the stuff everybody else wishes they could find.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mighty defensive about dressing ordinary, Derek, eh?

I dress sharp (not clownish, mind you) because I like to.
 

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Originally posted by doctoroxygen
When you went out in a black dress shirt and jeans, did you finish the night by having sex with a model you met that night? When you dress average, there's always going to be someone who is also dressed average but is taller, stronger, better looking, better hair, whatever. If you dress outlandishly, whether furry vest or rockstar style, you're not being compared to better looking guys wearing average stuff. It makes you stand out and puts you in a different class from average guys, that's all.

That said, it's hard to find peacocking clothes on the internet. You can find maybe one or two unique and cool items in each major city in the world; the key to getting good peacocking stuff is travelling. It doesn't have to be furry vests and New Rocks, either. For instance, I have silver shoes from London, gold shoes from Japan, cool jeans from Australia, an awesome jacket from France, etc etc. As Geoff puts it, wear the stuff everybody else wishes they could find.
Again, Peacocking doesn't make you anything more than what you already are.

But if you want to learn how to apply makeup and dress like a fag, Mystery has a new forum up:

http://www.mysterymethod.com/forum/index.php

Some guys there even promote acting Gay to get women.

BTW, I'm 45 and I routinely bang women 20 years younger than myself, without dressing up like some kind of fag, or wearing makeup, or being a routine-dependent entertainment monkey.

Again, anyone can dress flamboyantly and outlandishly.

That doesn't make you a DJ, or a PUA, but it does make you look like a tryhard wannabe.

I stand out from the crowd with my B/L, my words and my actions, not by wearing stuff purchased in a Gay clothing store.
 

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Peacocking doesn't make you more than what you already are. But if you're already awesome, then it makes you stand out that much more. Nobody's claiming wearing this sh¡t automatically gets you laid, but it makes life that much easier if your internals are set up and you peacock to let everyone know that you're the man.
 
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F*ck dressing up like a clown.




Drink alcohol excessively.
 
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