"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Where to ask a girl out to

mad|cow

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So a few weeks ago I saw this amazing girl at the gym that my friend is apparently personal training. After asking him about her the next day, he said she was single and she sounded like my kind of girl. So the next time I saw her I introduced myself, a little small talk, couple jokes, it went fine.

So the next day she found me on facebook(if anyone's not firmiliar its an online college type of community deal, where you can msg ppl) and messaged me. She messaged me again a few days later about something meaningless that looked like she just wanted to start a conversation. So I think she has taken interest in me.

This is where Im having major trouble, first off, I only see her occasionally at the gym once or twice a week, and when I do, I get *maybe* a few minutes of talk time. On the other hand I can contact her online, but, thats kinda weak.

So I figure the best way to get to know her/ask her for a real date, is to invite her somewhere where I dont need her to go with me, but it'd be nice if she were there....like...a party or something. Only problem is the last 2 weekends Ive tried the party idea either she was going somewhere by the time I found out about one, or there was some other conflict. So basically what are some places like this I could ask her to on or around a college campus/medium sized town??? I literally cant think of anywhere else like that that I could invite her to during the week and its really bothering me!



Thanks,

Ben
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I like action dates myself like golf and bowling for now on I'm going to try to avoid movies untlil like the third date also try something you like to do be it basketball football poker whatever just make sure she laughs and haves a good time
 

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Originally posted by mad|cow
So a few weeks ago I saw this amazing girl at the gym that my friend is apparently personal training. After asking him about her the next day, he said she was single and she sounded like my kind of girl. So the next time I saw her I introduced myself, a little small talk, couple jokes, it went fine.

So the next day she found me on facebook(if anyone's not firmiliar its an online college type of community deal, where you can msg ppl) and messaged me. She messaged me again a few days later about something meaningless that looked like she just wanted to start a conversation. So I think she has taken interest in me.

This is where Im having major trouble, first off, I only see her occasionally at the gym once or twice a week, and when I do, I get *maybe* a few minutes of talk time. On the other hand I can contact her online, but, thats kinda weak.

So I figure the best way to get to know her/ask her for a real date, is to invite her somewhere where I dont need her to go with me, but it'd be nice if she were there....like...a party or something. Only problem is the last 2 weekends Ive tried the party idea either she was going somewhere by the time I found out about one, or there was some other conflict. So basically what are some places like this I could ask her to on or around a college campus/medium sized town??? I literally cant think of anywhere else like that that I could invite her to during the week and its really bothering me!



Thanks,

Ben
coffee shop is a good start ...

Read the Bible bud... its all in there ...
 

mad|cow

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Ive read alot of the things in there, and im not asking how to ask her, rather what are some good places to ask her to that aren't limited to only dates (like movies, dinner, etc). If its already in the Bible and I didnt see it forgive my noobness :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you're at college. so like me your probably 22. or younger.

coffee shop is everyones first answer.

to me, coffee shop just aint that fun. neither is it a place I want to be making out with a chick.

party, fun, i like to make out with chick.
club, fun, i like to make out with chick.
movie, fun if i'm making out with chick.
mini golf, bowling. can't imagine making out much there, but haven't tried.
cruising in a car.... stop and talk, and making out will be fun.
invite her to your place for a dvd. again, making out and fun.
 
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