Well, it does help if you have a general idea of where you want the relationship to go.
But remember, you're the one who has to have the plan and vison, and youre not to force anyone to come along if they dont want.
Its up to her really.
She's the one who decides if your plan is something she wants to share and experience.
Dont live your life people pleasing and seeking her approval, it wont lead you down the road you should be on.
You're the one who has to have a clear vision of what you want, and no one else can sway you from it.
But this is where we engage our masculine instincts and show respect for them but also to ourselves and our vision.
This is where we tap into our Alpha qualities and inspire leadership and trust, and use diplomacy as best as you can.
Dont be afraid to make mistakes. But make sure you take others into consideration, and follow what is best for as many involved. Make peace and harmony, but stand firm when you have to. There doesnt have to be an either/or , win/lose scenario. So try to work things out in that manner.
This does not mean ignore her or her concerns, or dont care about what she wants or what she thinks. Always listen to her concerns, and pay attention to her. But make sure you are following your own heart, and take hers into consideration. Dont be a cold hearted bastard.
Also, have consideration for her parents, who may not even like you.
Treat them with respect, and allow them to be themselves.
Youre not here to convince them. But dont allow them to break you down.
But you will have an easier time of things if you have an idea of what you want and what kind of relationship you want, and what sorts of experiences you want to have with her.
Remember that oftentimes she and her family will look to you for leadership.
So be prepared for that.
Good luck.
