Where is this emotion coming from?

[Drdeee]

Help an afc find what's wrong with him, and advice on approach.

There is this neighbor chick around here, lives downstairs, comes upstairs to a balcony to chit chat on the phone for like two hours. Even though I watch TV I still hear her, and even though it's no big deal, somehow it ticks me off. Inside me there is a feeling, or more like a rage, I wanna walk up to the girl and tell her to quiet it down or just leave, and not talk next to my door. This feeling just eats me from inside, wanna punch her, lol. The other night she was f*cking with two dudes, or it was two girls and two dudes, all night long. Before that night I didn't even notice her or cared that she was outside talking and I could hear it. I don't know man, maybe after the slut night her voice changed a bit to the look at me I'm better than anyone else side, not sure. Where is this coming from and how to deal with it?

Now as far as advice goes. I wanna approach her. After all she's a neighbor, and loud talking is bugging me, plus there is a metal door that I rather her close carefully and not bang. I'm thinking when she comes out to talk on the phone, I'll come over to smoke, ask for a light, I know she doesn't have one. Then ask her name, etc, etc.. But the girl's on the phone, so advice. I honestly don't care if I could bring her over to my place to watch a movie or not, but it be nice to start some place, even as a friend.


I'm zero with approaching girls, I have theory but no practice. Taking on bootcamp soon, two months already into getting it started. Noticing chicks noticing me, and then getting turn off because I don't approach.


No goals right? If I do it I'll do it, if not, regroup and grow balls.

 

[PDubb75]

That was a really confusing post. I'm not exactly sure what you are getting at. It sounded like you despise this girl, then there was a slew of ramble, then you're asking for advice how to talk to her?

I'll just focus on the approaching part. Go out there and do whatever. Smoke a cig, talk on the phone... probably not the best idea to interrupt her conversation, but stop her from leaving when she hangs up. But smile at her and make eye contact before then. Then just talk to her. Like you would anyone else. You even have a perfect opportunity to bust on her a bit about her being so damn loud.

Don't set yourself up for possible failure and THEN grow balls. You are 30... grow them right fvckin now and start approaching. Take it from someone that used to not approach anyone... regret hurts sooooo much more than rejection!

 

[Drdeee]

awww, forget it. she has a bf. Though cuz chatting on phone late maybe single or seeing dudes, but nah, was wrong. Anyway, f*ck this, doing bootcamp.

 

[eckhart tolle]

LOL?????
she has a boyfriend and youre quitting?
ha ha ha.

nah brah. her having a boyfriend just means shell leave him for you. thats all it means. keep that mentality.

anyway. escalate her. easy.
1.see her, walk up, say. "whats up"
2.talk about ANY random **** you wanna talk about. doesnt matter what it is. hell you can even describe a movie to her. talk about a whole ****ing movie you know about
3.while youre both talking just start to touch her. anywhere randomly.

a. if she rejects your touch. simply stop the touch.
b.20-30 seconds later start the touching again.
c. if she rejects your touch. simply stop the touch.
d.20-30 seconds later start the touching again.
e. if she rejects your touch. simply stop the touch.
g.20-30 seconds later start the touching again.

are you beginning to get the picture? if shes into you she WILL NOT LEAVE WHEN YOU TOUCH HER. she will resist the touches verbally or physically. and eventually give up.


if she is NOT INTO YOU SHE WILL WALK AWAY as soon as your touch becomes persistent. easy bro.