Where is the thin line located?

[DJ_student]

I need some advice here guys, help me out...

Just realized today all the things I do with girls back in my "chump" days. Now that I think about it, there are two categories where I put women. The women I like and the women I don't give a **** about. Now that I think about it, I realized I act very differently when I'm with these 2 categories of women. When I like the girl, I act around doing "sweet" things, gifts, even admitted I like her as soon as I got the chance... Basically I was an AFC, and most of the times end up with LJBF. Anyways, I noticed when I'm with a girl that I'm not interested in, I acted in a way where they become more interested by acting indifferent, etc... Now my question is, how can I use this principle with the girls I like and in the same time show that I'm interested so I dont end up as LJBF? Where is the thin line?

 

[horaholic]

Treat them like you dont like them so much. Its simple, yet easier said than done. Treat the ones you like like fat chicks. Well, not fat chicks, but like average chicks.

 

[sharkbeat]

There are two of ways how a man can show his interest to a woman.

The first is by being vague and discreet. The man constantly wants to be with her but he never really shows it and never escalates beyond that. He's there wherever she goes, and does whatever she says. That's how much he likes her. He wants to be with her.

The second is by being direct yet subtle. He talks to her like a good friend, and like a good friend he's not afraid of teasing of her. He is also not afraid to lead their relationship. He would make subtle indications that he wants to take the relationship to the next level at her comfort level. If she doesn't like to, he doesn't take that personally, he shrugs it off and they remain good friends. Since the escalation is so subtle, it is not as awkward for the woman to say no, and it's not as strong to break up the relationship.

I think you should know what you need to do now.

 

[jacob]

I just had this realization today, on how to feel the confidence of indifference.
I just got over my oneitis since we broke up at the end of last year.

I think most guys notice that the girls their not interested in likes them and that the ones they are interested in don't, exactly how you describe.

And I think how you can get this confident feeling of not caring how they react to you and you just being your plain old self is to tell yourself that God destined you to be a bachelor for your whole life, just like his Son Jesus. And that you're destined to be single no matter what kind of hook up technique you try, if God doesn't want you to be promiscuis then whatever you do won't get you in her pants, and it's because God wants you to have salvation and not sin against him for your own good.

If you believe this with all your heart you'll no longer care how you act or even care if you "score" her or not, because you know, no matter how hard you try to impress her you won't get her, so might as well treat her like any other female.

But you always have the hope that if God willed you a wife in the future then it won't be because of any technique you pulled of but because it was His will.