"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Where have all the men gone?

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Someone beat you to this - another thread is discussing this article.
 

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so did a chick song , when she sang this course:
"where have all the cowboys gone?"
 

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penkitten said:
so did a chick song , when she sang this course:
"where have all the cowboys gone?"
Maybe they all drove away after she "dug her key into the side of his pretty little souped up four wheel drive, carved her name into his leather seats, slash a hole in all 4 tires and took a louisville slugger to both headlights."


:yawn:
 

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Espi said:
I think the article confirms women's insatiable need to feel discontent, i.e. always wanting what they can't have.
I think what they really want is to endlessly experience just "feelings" . If the "feelings" of contentment are not available because of circumstances (or their own dysfuctional actions ) then the "feelings " of discontentment will do just fine..

Wanting what you cannot have is a guarantee that you will always experience a stream of longing and yearning "feelings" ,ergo your wish to be immersed in feelings of any genre is granted.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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penkitten said:
so did a chick song , when she sang this course:
"where have all the cowboys gone?"


They went to Brokeback Mountain which lead to their death.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Maybe they all drove away after she "dug her key into the side of his pretty little souped up four wheel drive, carved her name into his leather seats, slash a hole in all 4 tires and took a louisville slugger to both headlights."


:yawn:
Hahaha..:up: This must have been the second wave of fleeing cowboys.

The first wave started after the Dixie Chicks came out with that "Earl had to die" song...

All the cowboys are now in Thailand last I heard. :D
 
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jophil28 said:
I think what they really want is to endlessly experience just "feelings" . If the "feelings" of contentment are not available because of circumstances (or their own dysfuctional actions ) then the "feelings " of discontentment will do just fine..

Wanting what you cannot have is a guarantee that you will always experience a stream of longing and yearning "feelings" ,ergo your wish to be immersed in feelings of any genre is granted.
This is a gem here! :up: A lesson in psychology!
 

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Some of those comments on that article are class :D

I'm a male in my mid 30's. Why would i want to give up my life and fun seeing that i am richer, wiser and i could now seduce women in the early 20's more easily?

Settle down? Maybe when i'm 45. But for now, its about making money, young women, fast cars, 6 days in the gym, parties and more importantly traveling around the world in the pursuit of fun. (You cant do this with a nagging with and screaming kids).

Do i have any sympathy for women? How many ways can i spell NO!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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