"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Where have all the men gone?

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Someone beat you to this - another thread is discussing this article.
 

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so did a chick song , when she sang this course:
"where have all the cowboys gone?"
 

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penkitten said:
so did a chick song , when she sang this course:
"where have all the cowboys gone?"
Maybe they all drove away after she "dug her key into the side of his pretty little souped up four wheel drive, carved her name into his leather seats, slash a hole in all 4 tires and took a louisville slugger to both headlights."


:yawn:
 

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Espi said:
I think the article confirms women's insatiable need to feel discontent, i.e. always wanting what they can't have.
I think what they really want is to endlessly experience just "feelings" . If the "feelings" of contentment are not available because of circumstances (or their own dysfuctional actions ) then the "feelings " of discontentment will do just fine..

Wanting what you cannot have is a guarantee that you will always experience a stream of longing and yearning "feelings" ,ergo your wish to be immersed in feelings of any genre is granted.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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penkitten said:
so did a chick song , when she sang this course:
"where have all the cowboys gone?"


They went to Brokeback Mountain which lead to their death.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Maybe they all drove away after she "dug her key into the side of his pretty little souped up four wheel drive, carved her name into his leather seats, slash a hole in all 4 tires and took a louisville slugger to both headlights."


:yawn:
Hahaha..:up: This must have been the second wave of fleeing cowboys.

The first wave started after the Dixie Chicks came out with that "Earl had to die" song...

All the cowboys are now in Thailand last I heard. :D
 
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jophil28 said:
I think what they really want is to endlessly experience just "feelings" . If the "feelings" of contentment are not available because of circumstances (or their own dysfuctional actions ) then the "feelings " of discontentment will do just fine..

Wanting what you cannot have is a guarantee that you will always experience a stream of longing and yearning "feelings" ,ergo your wish to be immersed in feelings of any genre is granted.
This is a gem here! :up: A lesson in psychology!
 

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Some of those comments on that article are class :D

I'm a male in my mid 30's. Why would i want to give up my life and fun seeing that i am richer, wiser and i could now seduce women in the early 20's more easily?

Settle down? Maybe when i'm 45. But for now, its about making money, young women, fast cars, 6 days in the gym, parties and more importantly traveling around the world in the pursuit of fun. (You cant do this with a nagging with and screaming kids).

Do i have any sympathy for women? How many ways can i spell NO!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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