Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Where do you sit on the balance between the benefits and risks of slutty girls??

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For example, two weeks ago, I met this girl in a bar downtown. Took her back to her place, we had sex. It was pretty good sex and I had fun and all, but I found myself worrying about HOW easy it was.

I mean, I guess I can't really complain about finding a woman who just enjoys sex without serious attachment first, but at the same time, I wonder about her selectivity. Am I just "that good a catch?" Or has she been with a different guy every weekend?

I used protection and everything, but I know it's not 100% foolproof.

I sent her a text message Friday because I was horny and she was busy, but we have tentative plans for Sunday. And I'm torn about whether I should keep the plans.

On one hand, I've got this girl who may prove to be a good go-to fvck-buddy. She's attractive, she enjoys sex, and I don't have to bullsh!t her to get it. I love the thrill of sexing a beautiful stranger, too. :D

On the other hand, if she enjoys sex this much, who's to say she hasn't been around a lot more than she should have? What if one of those guys was packing HIV, or hepatitis or one of those ill diseases? Again, studies show condoms are like 99.5% effective against transmission or some sh!t like that, but still, it's a roll of the dice whether she has it and it's a roll of the dice every time I bang her whether I get it.

I mean, I already did her once...so I'm not sure if I should even worry at this point as long as I bag it before I tag it. It just bugs me, that's all.

So where do you guys stand on "sexually liberated" (slvtty) girls?

Just curious.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Othello

with the diseases, you've rooted her once. If you were going at it for more than 2 minutes :p then i'd say you wouldve picked up what hse has (if anything). Go to the docs and do a test.
Oh it was more than two minutes. :D But I wore a condom which should protect me against most stuff, or at least severely reduce the odds of contracting anything. And I certainly plan to wear one again if I do her (or any other girl) again.

But the possibility still exists. *shrug*

I'm doing my best to mitigate any risk-factors. The funny thing is I don't care much about HER or MYSELF. What I DO care about is if I find the "right girl" sometime in the future, I don't want to give anything to her.
 

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Just because the bi*ch took you home the first night you meet, that doesn't make her a slut.

I've had my ONS, and come to find out, only 1 of them was really easy. The others were actually pretty decent women, who needed some ****.

ANY woman,....... ANY woman will have a ONS. I don't care, if she see's something that she wants, really bad, then she will do it only if he convinces her that he will not see her as a ***** the next morning. Trust me, I know this.

Any woman can be ONSed, you just have to be lucky enough to be there at the right time, and say the right things, and press the right buttons, and presto!!!! ONS

Then afterwards, don't freak out. Just call her a day or two later, and hook up again while you find out more about her. If she is a ho, then you'll find out. But don't focus on what she does for you, cause I have F buddies that will do anything that I ask, but don't let some chump come up to her and think that he will get any where close to the sex treatments that I get. Just be happy, there's millions of men out there that want I have and what you are about to recieve. Just be sure to tell that ***** what you want her to do for you. If it is swallow you load, the TELL HER TO SWALLOW YOUR LOAD!!! Don't edit your language at all. ;) She'll love her "in control man".

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two weeks ago, I met this girl in a bar downtown. Took her back to her place, we had sex. It was pretty good sex and I had fun and all, but I found myself worrying about HOW easy it was.

...

I mean, I guess I can't really complain about finding a woman who just enjoys sex without serious attachment first, but at the same time, I wonder about her selectivity. Am I just "that good a catch?" Or has she been with a different guy every weekend?

...

we have tentative plans for Sunday. And I'm torn about whether I should keep the plans.

...

if she enjoys sex this much, who's to say she hasn't been around a lot more than she should have?

...

it's a roll of the dice whether she has it [STD] and it's a roll of the dice every time I bang her whether I get it.

...

So where do you guys stand on "sexually liberated" (slvtty) girls?
what if she was thinking the exact same thing about YOU? it would seem that both of you are just as "easy" and liberated as the other. you took eachother home. youre just as "dirty" as she would be. youre both sluts =)

where do you draw the line here? this isnt any kind of personal insult, but would you be a sexually liberated man whos got a double standard against sexually liberated women?

i understand all of your concerns. ive worked in the bar industry for the past 4 years. at the moment, im a bouncer at the busiest bar on my side of Arizona. im constantly surrounded by those "sexually liberated" girls =). hell, 4 of my bartenders, all together, have laid at least 75+ girls who go there on a regular basis. horny, sex-aholic, alcohol and/or drug induced hookups are the norm.

its all good. imo this is one of the things you enjoy and take in stride. just like every other girl, put her up against your requirements. short-term or long-term, whatever youre looking for in a woman, line her up. see if she qualifies. if she doesnt, dont be afraid to move on and try again.

there are some sweethearts left. girls who hang on tightly to their vaginas... girls whove only had 2-3 partners even though theyre in their 20s. then youve got the girls whove been having threesomes since they were 16. ive known both kinds...

bottom line - its your world. if you want a good-girl who doesnt have one night stands, go find her and make her yours. theyre out there.

if on the other hand, you want dozens of girls calling you at 2am, asking to come over and get broken off... thats great too. lots of girls are just looking for great sex.

whats really funny is when youve got dozens of GOOD GIRLS, who want a relationship with you, calling you at 2am to be railed, in hopes that they can win you over and change your ways... but thats another story :D


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Listen, if you catch any girl in the right state, say and act the right way and seclude her... just about any girl can become a ONS. Just some are more receptive than others...

Afterall, a slut is just a woman with the sexual morals of a man.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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