"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Where do you guys meet women?

Last_straw

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I'm curious because I currently have no options. It takes me months to find a girl that's interested enough to go out on a date. And a significant portion of them just turn out to be flakes. The last actual date I had was way back in Feb. And I do realize that it's simply because I'm not meeting enough women (at this point I think all I can do is try and play the numbers game). But I have no idea where to meet women. I find that women on the street aren't receptive to me trying to talk to them (this isn't just isolated to my interactions with women, I find that ppl in general aren't very friendly. It's like they are in their own little world and aren't happy when ppl intrude in it).

I almost never have women notice me in public (except recently I had this girl start talking to me about something about jay walking while we were waiting at the light, but I wasn't all that attracted to her so didn't pursue much).

Meeting women at work is also difficult since the girls there don't think highly of me. So trying to meet their friends would just be setting myself up for failure.

School isn't the easiest either since I'm only there to attend my classes and there aren't any women in them (I work 2 jobs as well as go to school so not much time to socialize at school).

Anyway, I think I lost track of the point of this post, which is simply where do you guys meet women?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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xdreamz

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i meet them mostly around where I live. For you you should work on your social life a little bit, get some friends hang out with them. "all work and no play makes jack a dull boy"..if nobody notices you then maybe you should work on your wardrobe, the internet has some good fashion sites, use google. if u see any girl solo, chat her up immediately with some b.s. talk, make her want to help you with something, etc. just keep trying.
 

Lexington

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It's always easier to talk to girls in social settings. In more mundane settings, people are usually busy with something or the other. They've got somewhere they've got to go or some task to attend to. It's usually not easy to build enough rapport to go for the number.

Bars are good places to meet girls. They are there to socialize and have fun. House parties are even better because all the invitees must have been vetted in some way; they have to know somebody to be at the party.

Join some clubs or organizations where there are girls. Me and a friend of mine recently started a cardio kickboxing class. As much as people laugh at us for it, there are lots of hot girls there and it's a lot more fun that just running.

Also, in the event that you do have a decent conversation with a stranger you just met on street, always get the number. Have a standard line prepared. Something like, "well, you seem really cool, I want to get to know you better, what's your number?" What do you have to lose?
 

2crudedudes

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This has been particularly difficult for me as well. Outside of bars and clubs, I don't really see how or where I can meet women.

However, something I've found recently that is helping me broaden my senses is to read the field/approach reports that people post and update on here from time to time. They give you a good idea where others are meeting and approaching women, as well as what they're saying and how that's turning out for them.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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actionjaxson

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you can meet women literally anywhere. off the top of my head last few days
standing in line at footlocker buying socks see hot girl checking me out
walking home from local burger joint some chick says hi to me
walking through mall see girl giving me eye contact and smile
girl in subway station checking me out

the main thing is you just have to always be prepared to make an approach. it could happen at the most random times when you're least expecting it. you dont even need to get signals from her just do it.
 
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