Where Do You Draw The Line

[In10se]

Let me tell you this story with as much detail as possible while still being concise.

Friday night I was out in NYC with two friends who went to college together. While at the club they randomly spot two girls from their college. Which is strange bc its not in NY...anyway one of the girls I recognize from mutual friends pictures...always wanted to meet/bone her and I knew this was prime chance...I soon found out she was pretty into me and we made out...

Side details she was on some drugs which I wasn't thrilled about, but she was super attractive and really clinged to me, so I rolled with it....

Halfway through the night my idiot friend randomly points out two other dudes from his college... that had absolutely no connection to us...he introduces them into the set and coincidentally one of the guys happens to be friends/ex **** buddies of the girl I was currently working on...

She made them join the group but focused most of her attention on me...we didn't end up leaving till about 6 in the morning at which point I suggested she come home with me...she instead suggested that her and her friend were going to chill at one of the chode's apartments and that I should come...I was absolutely exhausted at this point and decided to just go home (I don't live in the city/ need to take a train).

She calls me the next day and tells me she would love to see me again before she goes back home (a state away). I tell her I would like to see her again and we text throughout the day. She told me she ended up back at that dudes house with her friend and they just laid in bed together and relaxed... WTF...

At that point I suggested she come to where I live and go out with me...she said she really wanted to see me but he friend was intent on staying at her apartment in the city (this friend is the girl she was visiting not the chode) ...I ignored her texts for awhile and she started saying all kinds of overly emotional **** and hyping me up for what an awesome guy she thinks I am...idk idc...I wanted to fvck

End of story, she wants to hang out before she goes abroad...if she wants to come visit me idc, but I refuse to travel...

Basically, where would you have drawn the line and stopped chasing her down... I could've gone back to the guys apartment at 6 am, but that felt like a bit too much...what do you think?

 

[ebracer05]

It doesn't sound like you have a lot invested her. I would just lay down the law. Don't be afraid to be the man. Stop with this whole "I want to see you" "I want to see you too" nonsense. If you want to see her, when she says I want to see her, then give her a command. Tell her to come over. And if she she won't, tell her it's not going to work.

I wouldn't go over and hang out with her at some ex's house. That's ridiculous dude. She wants to have control of the situation. She's getting your attention right now, but she isn't having to give anything for it. I wouldn't do anything else with her if she won't consent to coming to your place.

 

[In10se]

Its frustrating when such a great opportunity presents itself, but then the logistics involved have to fall into place perfectly...realistically speaking I don't think a lot of girl's would leave the friend they were visiting, take a 40 min train and spend the night with a guy...I wish that was how things worked, but no such luck

 

[ebracer05]

Well I didn't realize that's what was involved, you're right.

Then dude, suck it up and if you really want to f*ck her, go over there. One shot. What would be better than f*cking her in the same place as her ex? You'll just have to be really insistent on isolating her.