Where Do I stand?

[Derrick94]

Okay, there's this chick I met in school awhile back say......7 months ago.We've been talkin as bestfriends ever since.I've really developed feelings for this girl,but I don't know how she feels about me.So I don't know if I should've done this but i asked her and this was her reply....

"Well i love everything abt u ur personality, ur smile,ur laugh, the way u treat me,ur brains, and we seem like the perfect match,But im not really looking for a relationship rite now and too many guys like me and i dont wanna hurt anyone........but wen i find myself i can really see us together in the future if u can just only wait for me ....idk how long, but jus kno i lov our friendship and I"ll always be their for u"

So how should i handle this chick?? I mean i genuinly care for her ,but i gotta kno where her head is.

 

[Captain]

ARRRRRRGHHHH!!!!

You're in the dreaded Friendzone.

Read the DJ Bible (link below.)

 

[1 Bad Dude]

You have to define where you stand with her. NOT HER. If you want more than that then go for it. Ask her out. "Me and you should go out this saturday." A date? "Yeah, a date. You aint scared are you?" None of that "where do I stand with you" bull crap. YOU define where you want to be. If she isn't down, then you move on to someone who is. That simple. And what captain said also.

 

[SPEAK]

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but I know the majority of people on this forum have heard something similar to what this "very sensitive" girl has said.

She says she doesn't want to get hurt and thats why she doesnt want to go out with you? If she loves you as much as she says wouldn't she be jumping your c0ck?

I am sorry to say this but you are in the friends zone with this girl, and for you this is the 10th circle of hell.

I have been here myself with a girl, I did everything for her and she really liked me... but as a friend.

You need to and you WILL move on from this girl, you just have to get it through your head that the sooner you move on the better you will be in the long run.

At this current point in time you have no chance of getting this girl because as she said

too many guys like me

WTF does that even meen? She wants to send the message to you that she is highly prized and that you are just one of many and are way down on the list as well.

This part here really disturbs me...

but wen i find myself i can really see us together in the future if u can just only wait for me ....idk how long, but jus kno i lov our friendship and I"ll always be their for u

After reading that it sent shivers down my spine, I think that something is very wrong with society in the way that this girl, and many many MANY others, have been programmed to be B1TCHES. This girl has Attention Wh0re written all over.

When she says that you have to wait for her she is just feeding her own twisted little female ego and agenda. She is fueling her self-esteem on how many puppy dogs she can get to follow her. And right now I can hear you barking, and so can she.

So her that you ARE A MAN, because I know you are, by deleting her number from your phone book and not talking to her for at least a month. Move on to other girls, better girls, because believe me this girl is not worth the drama.

It will be hard to do but once you start spinning more plates and talking to more girls you will laugh at how you could have ever been so infatuated with one girl... especially that one. I GUARANTEE it.

Now don't contact this girl for at least a month and read the bible, it sounds like you have a lot of work to do. Feel free to PM me.

Be a MAN, because real men don't wait.

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

^^good advise by SPEAK

You wont do it though. You dont want to ruin that "best friend" relationship you have going. Is it really that good of a friendship?

Having your friendship drift apart is the first step necessary in getting her to drop her panties for you.

 

[Derrick94]

So how long do i wait before speaking to her?? Keep in mind I take 12th grade classes so we have 5 classes together

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

So how long do i wait before speaking to her?? Keep in mind I take 12th grade classes so we have 5 classes together

You can speak to her, just be distant toward her. Dont initiate conversations and keep them brief. Dont give her what she wants.