Where Did It Go Wrong?

[ProDJ26]

It happens to all of us, we meet the one that catches our eye and eventually we fall for them. Well I just get hit and it was pretty hard. But I'm dazed and confused. I've been dating HB for a year and 2 months now and she's become very "distant" if you know what I mean. Half the time I feel like a total stranger. When I try and talk to her she says "I can't talk to you" or "I don't wanna argue". H3ll the majority of the time she'll look down and away from me but not at me like she used to



What's there to argue about?

When she does finally answer me it's snapping back at me with a bytchy attitude. She also tell me she has nothing to say but when were apart she'll start to try and text me ALL night long. Maybe no contact is in order? Seeing as I already deleted her numer and her from my Facebook

 

[L B]

Once it gets to that point, it's too late. In your case, she's climbed another tree and is waiting for it to be stable before dumping you. Let it go and invest your energy on something/someone more productive.

 

[pdx1138]

yep LB is spot on.

Don't give her the opportunity to string you further before she has a firm grasp on the next guy.

 

[Desdinova]

When the signs are clear that the relationship is deteriorating, it's time to move on. It would be a waste of time to keep it going. Once she's lost her IL it's nearly impossible to revive it.

Tell her you're moving on and cut contact with her. The sooner you end it, the sooner you'll move on, and the sooner it will get better.

 

[betheman]

as above posts have said....however!
she may want more...marriage? babies?
either way, the writing is on the wall she is withdrawing and expecting you to crank up.... back right off is my advice....way back off

 

[scrouds]

This is the perfect time to get back whatever she has of yours. CDs, books, your prized paperclip collection.

 

[ProDJ26]

Thanks for your replies guys not what I really wanted to hear but the truth none the less. It just sucks when you invest all this time into something that won't last. Its like wow that was a waste of a year". Mean seriously this has happened to me so much I really don't see the point in marriage or dating anymore. No I dont want to marry right now Im just saying eventually it gets tiring trying to play games just to keep or get a women. Or better yet just for sex.

 

[Desdinova]

It just sucks when you invest all this time into something that won't last. Its like wow that was a waste of a year".

For me, it's at a point where I just enjoy it for what it is: an enjoyable experience with a fun girl. There's really not much more to it anymore. I don't need to have a lot in common with her, but we can go out and have a good time together. Once it gets stale or irritating, it's time to move on and do it all over again.

I have no desire to keep a woman around just because I've "invested time" into our relationship. I want to keep her around if we have a good time together. Once that's gone, there's no reason to keep her around anymore.

Commitment shouldn't be more important than being happy.

 

[ProDJ26]

I'm FREE!!!!!

 

[typical]

I'm FREE!!!!!

Good on ya mate you have just saved yourself a tonne of grief and heartache