"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Where did I mess up?

MK1776

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*UPDATE* : 3 posts down

Alright, I've been a lurker around here for a little while. I'd like to think of myself as one of those guys who "just doesn't get it". With that said, I'd like some Input on how I might've screwed this up.

Firstly, this girl from class actually approached me. We've talked for a bit and have only hung out once. Well all of the sudden last night I get some drunk texts from her. Long story short she says shes super drunk and doesn't want to wake up her roommate, so I invite her over and she agrees. I walk over to the dorm to pick her up with a friend that wanted to tag along, see her outside and we chat. All of the sudden she realizes that she called me to come pick her up and profusely apologizes. She basically thought I called her. She's really messed up so I play it cool, tell her she better get inside and I head back to my place. Throughout the night I receive drunken apologies to which I don't respond.

Fast forward to the morning I receive another apology here's what went down:

Her: I'm so sorry for last night
Me: You can make it up to me later (;
Her: and tell your friend Chris Im so sorry too like I'm really embarrassed
Me: I'm the one that came to pick you up. He wanted to roll with
Her: I know I'm so sorry though like I don't want you to see me like that
Me: See you in a cute ass pair of shorts and drunk off your ass? That was funny
Her: Those weren't even my clothes!
Me: Lol, well they looked really good on you, so you should get a pair just like them
Her: Those were PJs and my ass was hanging out so thanks for the hint.
Me: You're welcome :)
Me: We should catch up over game of pool, I'd like to hear how the night went

UPDATE: She finally responded saying she was sorry and that she was at the pool all day. So I'm thinking I should just ignore her until I see her in class tomorrow
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dustmuffin

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Ignore her for 3 or so days. Do not give her compliments. Ask her out.
 

Bible_Belt

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Where did I mess up?

I walk over to the dorm to pick her up with a friend that wanted to tag along,


You brought another dude along when answering a drunken booty call. She probably thought you expected to double-team her. Unless that was on your mind - it was probably on his - I have no idea what you were thinking.
 

MK1776

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Where did I mess up?

I walk over to the dorm to pick her up with a friend that wanted to tag along,


You brought another dude along when answering a drunken booty call. She probably thought you expected to double-team her. Unless that was on your mind - it was probably on his - I have no idea what you were thinking.
You're right dude. I realized that was a bad move, but at the time I was high af and wasn't thinking right.
Anyways, she just responded and said she was at the pool all day. So I think I can proceed from there or just keep my mouth shut for a bit before I mess up anything else.
 

dk1990S111

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Where did I mess up?

I walk over to the dorm to pick her up with a friend that wanted to tag along,


You brought another dude along when answering a drunken booty call. She probably thought you expected to double-team her. Unless that was on your mind - it was probably on his - I have no idea what you were thinking.
Seriously lol so obvious
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Basically when she sees you, she is reminded of those embarrassing feelings. You should have been super cool and laughed it off and said stuff like, "oh we all do FUN drunken stuff like that, it's no big deal, heyyy it makes a really great story!" and have been all optimistic, till you killed her feelings of embarrassment. Now you have a great excuse to have her go out with you. "Hey you owe me one and can make it up to me by going clothes shopping with me... I need a woman's advice on style and fashion." Get her out with you soon, so her last memory of you is replaced with something fun, instead of that instance.
 

MK1776

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Basically when she sees you, she is reminded of those embarrassing feelings. You should have been super cool and laughed it off and said stuff like, "oh we all do FUN drunken stuff like that, it's no big deal, heyyy it makes a really great story!" and have been all optimistic, till you killed her feelings of embarrassment. Now you have a great excuse to have her go out with you. "Hey you owe me one and can make it up to me by going clothes shopping with me... I need a woman's advice on style and fashion." Get her out with you soon, so her last memory of you is replaced with something fun, instead of that instance.
There's a party this Friday for those who got bids during rush week, so I'll invite her to come with when I see her in class tomorrow.
 
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SteR

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I'd imagine the second she saw your friend turn up she was worried she'd be judged as a slut. You should have told her to come over to yours or at the very least picked her up alone..
 
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