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Driven

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I'll try and keep this short as I can.

A friend(slightly in my circle but not close, loosely a friend really) had a girl last summer. You see where this is heading.

They were together 1-2 months tops.

I work away during the week, come back on weekends, holidays, etc.

I would see them at the place 6-10 of us hang out(one dudes place). It is like a frat without the frat.

Anyway, somehow or another I end up with lions share of said girls attention. I show up, she comes to me and nudges me, says hello and so on. Lots of eye contact, joking, etc. I think he notices this and comes a bit unwound when I show up, no words ever said about it though.

She and 2 other girls and I are sitting around one day. We are talking cutting up, I'm holding court for the most part, leading conversation adn keeping it loose. It comes up that I work away and stay there. She fires off "I could live there". We all say huh??? Her- "I could find a better job..."

Me and another girl give each other a look like "She wants to move in with you". If you saw it you would know what I mean.

She and guy break up, I don't know this, I lose track of her. Then she shows up again one day out of the blue at our hangout. Sits next to me starts convo. I talk and invite her to go to other place a few of us are heading. She has people with her and can't. I learn about breakup, lose track of her again.

I stop in gas station she works at last Mon. She spots me from area she is taking break and yells out my name loud. I head over and talk. She is with another girl and I include her, making fun of "my" girl with her and generally have a good time for about 5 minutes. I stay evasive about my doings, and state I HAVE to go, which I did have to. I'm a busy guy.

I finish with "Give me your number and I will call when I get a chance" Her- "What are you doing to be so" I cut her off and say to hell with it I have to go and walk off.

She yells "Come and see me I work 2-10 weekdays"

I turn and say "I don't have time for that sh*t" and walk on off.


What the hell went wrong? Boyfriend? I had went a few months without seeing her so it could be.

I don't want to mess around with a chase and win her mess. At the same time I'm getting frustrated that I can't find a nonsmoker that is sane. All of the girls around here smoke or nonsmoke but have serious mental problems. I think it is from all the smokers "being cool" and "we the nonsmokers" "aren't". This girl smokes and that is what kept me from following up after the breakup. I thought I would find somebody but it hasn't happened.
 
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Since you are sooo busy (whatever that means) tell her you'll hook up with her on a particular day and go out for drinks/food whatever -- she is obviously interested in you....why she didn't give you her number? You don't seem too patient and maybe a little smoother transition in your conversation would have led her to giving you her #.

I personally don't date smokers - I see it as a masculine trait and a filthy aroma I wouldn't want to associate with when being around a woman.
 
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I'm busy because I work fulltime, I'm starting a business, and any other things I personally want to do have to be squeezed in. I do have some free time, I just don't want to spend it playing games with some girl just to get her number.

I have to go now.
 
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