"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Where can I post a personal journal around here?

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I've tried posting a personal journal, which lists flaws/strengths and ways to improve myself. I'm looking to post it, but apparently the mods delete it, or they mod it before it gets posted.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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penkitten

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you can post a field report and label it FR whatever.
however, we dont have a blog section.
 

Quiksilver

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I have a journal running right now. I only update it once every two months though. Journal

If you put one in the DJ discussion forum, and keep it on topic(goals, FRs, etc), then I'll make sure it doesn't get deleted. :trouble:

Personally I'd like to see more journals going in this place.

Good luck
 
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