Where are your friends?

[wildcard2012]

Often I go out alone. My friends are all professionals and aren't always available. Jeff for example's a lawyer who bills roughly 80 hours a week and Josh is usually snatched up by his girlfriend when not at work. Conversations have been going well but I keep getting this "where are your friends?" line. In my mind it's like "Ummm, not here obviously." As far as the game's concerned, I prefer picking up girls alone anyway. Therefor it's important I understand why this is so important to girls get a better grasp on how to handle this response wise. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

 

[Kailex]

I used to always say that they should have been here by now... and then a few minutes later look at my phone and say: Aw damn, I got ditched.

That way it didn't seem like a total loner.

But nowadays, I don't care. I'll be honest about it and sometimes even say I prefer to go out alone some nights and see what adventure/trouble I can get myself into. Then I ask if they want to join me.

 

[speed dawg]

I'd steer clear of b*tches that ask questions like that. Sounds like they are after social proof/status/etc.

 

[The Duke]

When I used to get the where are your friends question, I'd tell them he was on his way but got abducted by a group of wild girls on a party bus. They always laughed and wanted to know more. It was a good opener.

On a side note, I used to go to a big country dance bar. I was amazed by the amount of women that showed up by themselves. They always did a good job of trying to hide the fact that they were by themselves. They usually lied when I asked where there friends were.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

I say "I'm out alone".

Its something most people won't do. I think you are coming from the mindset that they're gonna think you are a loser with no friends.

Have the mindset that you've got balls, are social, and make things happen from thin air.

They will notice and be impressed.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I say "I'm out alone".

Its something most people won't do. I think you are coming from the mindset that they're gonna think you are a loser with no friends.

Have the mindset that you've got balls, are social, and make things happen from thin air.

They will notice and be impressed.

Repped, those other responses are great too.

How old are you OP?

For me to go out alone it's more "socially accepted". I have more excuses..."most of my friends are married and have to be home before the street lights turn on."

The worst part about it is walking to/from a place by youself, while cars and groups of people go past you all seemingly having the times of their lives....trick there is to look away so they don't recognize you haha.

There was a pretty good thread a while back on this whole topic.

I was amazed by the amount of women that showed up by themselves.

Yep, they show up alone but don't always go home alone...

 

[Warrior74]

Yah at this stage of life everyone has girlfriend, children, wives (or all of the above). I would expect that question only from women under 26. Over that age I would probably say "what are we, still in college?" or "tonight ain't poker night".

At my old regular haunt, we had this smoking hot single mom who would come alone in every 2 weeks on Weds night. She would have a few drinks, look for a guy she hadn't seen before and take him home. We found out that was the one night every fortnight that she was kid and job free.

 

[bluenorther]

I was grilled about my "friends" by an online meetup IRL, and she rejected me later partly because I didn't have anything to say in response.
Here's what makes sense to me:
It gets back to women and the Friends Zone-- What is it exactly that women get from all their effing "friends"?
VALIDATION!
They get validation from their gal-pals just as much as from us AFCs. It's a sure sign of immaturity and plain old insecurity, when they need so much validation. They'll never admit it, though, they call it just being sociable. Frankly, I'd rather pluck my own eyes out than allow most of their "friends" into my life. I'll offer that's the reason dames are so endlessly involved with their effing cell phones, they base their validation on how many "friends" they've got.
Likewise, they figure men should be the same way!
We're NOT!
Most of us, no matter how AFC we are, have no real need for those "friends" because we find our own TRUE validation, WITHIN ourselves.
Grown women who've been through a bad marriage and dropped a couple rugrats often find this out on their own. It's why older dames are so enjoyable to be around.