"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Where´s the ring?

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So my girlfriend and I have officially been in a relationship for a year. We celebrated last weekend, it was all good but...

Her friends and her mom are (in a kind of half joke half truth kind of way) asking where´s the ring. I just ignored but in retrospective, I could´ve have said something smooth or handled it different. What would you do or how would you have handled it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dr.Rocanlover said:
So my girlfriend and I have officially been in a relationship for a year. We celebrated last weekend, it was all good but...

Her friends and her mom are (in a kind of half joke half truth kind of way) asking where´s the ring. I just ignored but in retrospective, I could´ve have said something smooth or handled it different. What would you do or how would you have handled it?
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"Where's the ring?"

"Don't know. She hasn't bought me one yet."
 
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Id just laugh it off and if asked seriously i'd explain that a year is too short a time to know someone.

The year is a milestone in relationships, after that first year things tend to change. Two years maybe... One year? no way.
 
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I agree a year is too soon. Keep beating that pvssy up and enjoy it. Slap anyone that tells you to go spend a ton of money on a rock,
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Glassguy said:
I agree a year is too soon. Keep beating that pvssy up and enjoy it. Slap anyone that tells you to go spend a ton of money on a rock,
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Good post :D I wouldn't by a ring until at least 2-3-4 years down the road. Then again, I'm in no rush to get married either :rolleyes:
 
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